Maelstrom
Magical Pattern Auspie
I sort of thought what Professori ,was talking about is how failed memories of human relations get internalized....and eat away at your soul as you remember those bad events over and over and over again.
I had trouble with all my bad school memories eating away at me....I finally had to burn my yearbooks and sort of bury the past....put it in Gods hands, let dead memories stay dead.
I now try to remember to give grace for human stupidity if I can and just tell my self the other person had a bad day and didn't mean it, and let it go.
Most of the time it works and it makes for a happier life in general, some times you run into people who try to sprinkle steak sauce on your leg and treat it like a snack bar. Time to find a new place to be away from them.
On healing I try to teach the lessons I've learned if I see someone younger in the same spot hurting, it rarely works in the short term, but maybe somewhere down the road they will remember the advice.
Some care should be taken on fixing damaged people tho, my father a minister loves to do that, but he got a real bad one last time she nearly destroyed our entire family. Some people are like vampires they love being helped...they will love you to death literally, suck you dry and toss you aside without a second thought, when you have nothing left to give.
So when helping hurt people maintain certain Do not cross RED lines carefully, this much and no more. People with good hearts will respect that, the bad ones will try to decapitate you the first time you say no, all the love and friendship they said they had for you about will evaporate like dew in the sun.
I had trouble with all my bad school memories eating away at me....I finally had to burn my yearbooks and sort of bury the past....put it in Gods hands, let dead memories stay dead.
I now try to remember to give grace for human stupidity if I can and just tell my self the other person had a bad day and didn't mean it, and let it go.
Most of the time it works and it makes for a happier life in general, some times you run into people who try to sprinkle steak sauce on your leg and treat it like a snack bar. Time to find a new place to be away from them.
On healing I try to teach the lessons I've learned if I see someone younger in the same spot hurting, it rarely works in the short term, but maybe somewhere down the road they will remember the advice.
Some care should be taken on fixing damaged people tho, my father a minister loves to do that, but he got a real bad one last time she nearly destroyed our entire family. Some people are like vampires they love being helped...they will love you to death literally, suck you dry and toss you aside without a second thought, when you have nothing left to give.
So when helping hurt people maintain certain Do not cross RED lines carefully, this much and no more. People with good hearts will respect that, the bad ones will try to decapitate you the first time you say no, all the love and friendship they said they had for you about will evaporate like dew in the sun.