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When people treat you like you are retarded?

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AspiePie

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Okay yesterday I was at the bowling ally and a staff who usually doesn't handle me was there..

First some guy asked, "Are you gonna go bowling..."

I am in a bowling ally holding a bowling ball.. What am I going skydiving?

Then the women started yelling my name and saying it was my turn when I was getting a tea like I couldn't just look at the monitor to do that..

Then I pressed the space bar to start a new game and this women came around messing with the machine despite that I obviously knew what I was doing...

Then when I was walking away to get some tissues to blow my nose the women in charge started calling out my name like I was child walking out into the street..

Then finally the women with cerebral palsy in charge of the game starts telling me to stop playing when I know to stop playing cause we only play two games every time..

Anyone else have this problem?
 
AspiePie said:
Okay yesterday I was at the bowling ally and a staff who usually doesn't handle me was there..

First some guy asked, "Are you gonna go bowling..."

I am in a bowling ally holding a bowling ball.. What am I going skydiving?

Then the women started yelling my name and saying it was my turn when I was getting a tea like I couldn't just look at the monitor to do that..

Then I pressed the space bar to start a new game and this women came around messing with the machine despite that I obviously knew what I was doing...

Then when I was walking away to get some tissues to blow my nose the women in charge started calling out my name like I was child walking out into the street..

Then finally the women with cerebral palsy in charge of the game starts telling me to stop playing when I know to stop playing cause we only play two games every time..

Anyone else have this problem?
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I can't say I've ever had this issue, although I can see how frustrating it would be.
For me, the only annoying thing that ever happened to me when I've been bowling is that the group next to us seemed to be very drunk and at one point one of the girls - who was giggling a lot and nearly falling over every time she threw - came over and randomly hugged me after I managed to get a strike.
I went along with it, although it did catch me off guard.
 
Yes, sometimes people repeat things to me, not because they think that I'm retarded but because it is a known fact that I often don't hear things that people say to me, or I don't take something in, and people check to make sure I understood. It's done by family and partner, because they know I have AS and I have told them to check that I understood things in order to avoid confusion and surprises later on. It's part of my attempts to improve my communication with others.
 
My experience, as an Aspie that tried to fake being NT for 30 plus years (just discovered my diagnosis earlier this year) was dealing with people messing with me to entertain themselves. Then after treating me badly enough to upset me, they would then inform the boss that i was scaring them by being upset at what they did to me. By this time i would be stressed beyond being capable of calmly discussing what happened so i would get punished for their behavior towards me. Then after increasing my anxiety to high levels for their amusement, they would usually state that they believed that one day i would probably come in to work and shoot everyone, regardless of the fact that i practice non violence and they are usually the ones talking about their guns and who and what they want to shoot.
I really believe that NTs project what they think of doing to others onto what they believe non-NTs will do.
Many NTs scare me badly, but i get laughed at for being scared of them(I'm a man who stands 6 feet tall so i must never get scared and am always the one of which to be scared).
I have had my life threatened by one of my employees and mall security laughed when i asked to be escorted to my car (something they do as a regular service for others). Yet a year later, someone overheard a private discussion i had during my lunch break. This was a discussion i had with a former literature professor and we were discussing Shakespeare. (I know big faux pas to want to learn after being done with school.) Anyways, a girl who worked at the mall passed by and misheard or discussion and reports me to security and my boss for scaring her. At the time i didn't know why, but i lost my job. Later, i return to the mall in search of employment to find that they want to ban me from the mall because this woman was scared of me even though i didn't even know she existed.

So. An NT explicitly threatens my life (with details saying they would be waiting for me to be alone in the parking garage) and i get laughed at and the assistance i asked for ignored. But i discuss Shakespeare within earshot of an NT and that is threatening enough to warrant barring me from the premises and losing my job.
Note: after having them explain the reasons for my attempted exile, i pointed out that they not only had no real reason to do so and that they were denying me my right to seek gainful employment. That and the fact that i had served the head of security and his family numerous times as a server and he knew i was non violent allowed me to not be officially exiled.
 
AsperDragon said:
My experience, as an Aspie that tried to fake being NT for 30 plus years (just discovered my diagnosis earlier this year) was dealing with people messing with me to entertain themselves. Then after treating me badly enough to upset me, they would then inform the boss that i was scaring them by being upset at what they did to me. By this time i would be stressed beyond being capable of calmly discussing what happened so i would get punished for their behavior towards me. Then after increasing my anxiety to high levels for their amusement, they would usually state that they believed that one day i would probably come in to work and shoot everyone, regardless of the fact that i practice non violence and they are usually the ones talking about their guns and who and what they want to shoot.
I really believe that NTs project what they think of doing to others onto what they believe non-NTs will do.
Many NTs scare me badly, but i get laughed at for being scared of them(I'm a man who stands 6 feet tall so i must never get scared and am always the one of which to be scared).
I have had my life threatened by one of my employees and mall security laughed when i asked to be escorted to my car (something they do as a regular service for others). Yet a year later, someone overheard a private discussion i had during my lunch break. This was a discussion i had with a former literature professor and we were discussing Shakespeare. (I know big faux pas to want to learn after being done with school.) Anyways, a girl who worked at the mall passed by and misheard or discussion and reports me to security and my boss for scaring her. At the time i didn't know why, but i lost my job. Later, i return to the mall in search of employment to find that they want to ban me from the mall because this woman was scared of me even though i didn't even know she existed.

So. An NT explicitly threatens my life (with details saying they would be waiting for me to be alone in the parking garage) and i get laughed at and the assistance i asked for ignored. But i discuss Shakespeare within earshot of an NT and that is threatening enough to warrant barring me from the premises and losing my job.
Note: after having them explain the reasons for my attempted exile, i pointed out that they not only had no real reason to do so and that they were denying me my right to seek gainful employment. That and the fact that i had served the head of security and his family numerous times as a server and he knew i was non violent allowed me to not be officially exiled.
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Literally I had this problem too.. I was discussing the famous Dali Painting of Hitler sitting there doing the thing and they I had randomly gone off about, "Hitler Masturbating" while discussing Picasso... I don't know what I more offended by... the you weren't listening and accused me of saying something inappropriate while discussing painting.. Or that you confused Dali with Picasso.. Are you a simpleton.. Picasso is a simpleton who people attribute as great art who don't know what they are talking about and Dali is painter everyone likes something of who had real vision!
 
Try standing in a shopping mall, excitedly telling your sister about an X-men villain, and blurting out: "He was into social darwinism before it was cool! (or popular)".

You don't look at anyone after that.
 
AsperDragon said:
My experience, as an Aspie that tried to fake being NT for 30 plus years (just discovered my diagnosis earlier this year) was dealing with people messing with me to entertain themselves. Then after treating me badly enough to upset me, they would then inform the boss that i was scaring them by being upset at what they did to me. By this time i would be stressed beyond being capable of calmly discussing what happened so i would get punished for their behavior towards me. Then after increasing my anxiety to high levels for their amusement, they would usually state that they believed that one day i would probably come in to work and shoot everyone, regardless of the fact that i practice non violence and they are usually the ones talking about their guns and who and what they want to shoot.
I really believe that NTs project what they think of doing to others onto what they believe non-NTs will do.
Many NTs scare me badly, but i get laughed at for being scared of them(I'm a man who stands 6 feet tall so i must never get scared and am always the one of which to be scared).
I have had my life threatened by one of my employees and mall security laughed when i asked to be escorted to my car (something they do as a regular service for others). Yet a year later, someone overheard a private discussion i had during my lunch break. This was a discussion i had with a former literature professor and we were discussing Shakespeare. (I know big faux pas to want to learn after being done with school.) Anyways, a girl who worked at the mall passed by and misheard or discussion and reports me to security and my boss for scaring her. At the time i didn't know why, but i lost my job. Later, i return to the mall in search of employment to find that they want to ban me from the mall because this woman was scared of me even though i didn't even know she existed.

So. An NT explicitly threatens my life (with details saying they would be waiting for me to be alone in the parking garage) and i get laughed at and the assistance i asked for ignored. But i discuss Shakespeare within earshot of an NT and that is threatening enough to warrant barring me from the premises and losing my job.
Note: after having them explain the reasons for my attempted exile, i pointed out that they not only had no real reason to do so and that they were denying me my right to seek gainful employment. That and the fact that i had served the head of security and his family numerous times as a server and he knew i was non violent allowed me to not be officially exiled.
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People suck.. It's worse with aspie hunters and still worse with in denial aspies.
 
oleranchhand said:
People suck.. It's worse with aspie hunters and still worse with in denial aspies.
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Frankly I am bit of aspie hunter myself as I basically try to find aspies online.. A lot of people get mad when I peg their behavior as autistic... And frankly with how many people seen in the mental health care industry who fit the the peg of mentally ill I often found the people caring for me are as disabled as me if not down-right ****** people?
 
AspiePie said:
Frankly I am bit of aspie hunter myself as I basically try to find aspies online.. A lot of people get mad when I peg their behavior as autistic... And frankly with how many people seen in the mental health care industry who fit the the peg of mentally ill I often found the people caring for me are as disabled as me if not down-right ****** people?
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I think it depends on the motivation of the "hunter" - whether they're simply trying to find other Aspies to talk to because they want to learn or have Autism/Aspergers themselves and want to connect with others on the spectrum, or those who seek out Aspies just to mock and hate on.
I was the first kind for a long time. If I wasn't, I may not have found this social network. :D
 
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