What is more important - to say what you think or be heard?
I see how everyone else interpreted that as having a few people understand what you are saying, or have the masses sort of understand...I would tend to agree that having a few understand is better.
But originally, I read the original post a different way and am not sure that it is remotely related to what you meant to ask, epath...I see that Kasman did the same, so I feel okay about it....
The question seems to presuppose that the two things are mutually exclusive. If you say what you think you are not being heard. If you are being heard you must not be saying what you really think. So I came out with "Is it better to be forthright/honest and have people ignore you or to fake it so that people will "hear" you."
In which case, I would say it depends on the situation. Honesty in personal relationships is always paramount. But at work or out on the street, not everyone has to know everything you think exactly how you think it...sometimes just thinking it is enough. That way you don't have to pretend to be someone you aren't, nor are you being ostracized for being outspoken. If that makes sense.
And as far as just expressing yourself for YOUR sake without consideration for the behaviors or others...that sounds like the mentality of an artist or author. You can give it as much meaning as you want, but as soon as you release it into the ether, it will be taken over by the masses. If you aren't cool with that then you're just asking for trouble sharing all your precious thoughts.
Like...there is a reason that art museums don't post entire diatribes about each piece along with the name...As each person looks at it, it is THEIR art...their thoughts on canvas. Then you discuss your thoughts with someone else, and share ideas. Change your interpretation, or don't! No one else can tell you what something means to you...but in interpersonal relationships when you are talking to an individual about something that is personal to them, it is often best to share your interpretation in a gentle manner using the "active listening method".
Them: I ate a snail.
Me: I heard you say that you consumed a live snail. Is that right?
Them: No. It was a dead snail. Cooked and served in a sanitary manner at a French restuarant.
Me: Oh..I ...think that's gross.
Them: You're entitled. But it wasn't gross for me.
Me: Not gross for you?
Them: Nope.
Me: Ok...let's not talk about it anymore. I'm getting sick.
Them: How 'bout them Giants? etc. etc.