I've heard lots of parents say even if their children are not that old... she/ he's Autistic so I will have to take care of him/ her for the rest of my life... my son/ daughter will need constant help so I have to make sure it's provided... he does some odd things, we accept it, we want people around him to accept it as well... she doesn't communicate very well, that's just the way she is... all those are not negative statements and are said with best intentions but... I just have this nagging feeling that if not majority but significant amount of people don't really believe that people with Autism especially the ones on the lower side can advance. so in many cases they give up and try to deal with what they have in the best way they can. I've been thinking about people who are sick with some deteriorating disease, or brain damaged, or with some physical impalement but let's say... otherwise regularly developed, and possibly had normal lives before the condition. Some of them would give up, some would adjust but some would go above and beyond to prove that they can bend the limits.
Sometimes I think that when you have some sort of developmental disability...or maybe even any other one but let's say from birth, it's hard to believe that you can be something more than what you are. I think it's important for people surrounding that kind of person to believe in impossible for him/ her for a while so he/ she could realize it later one step at a time. It's very easy to be disappointed it's much harder to turn it into a fuel for improvement. The question is why should they do it? Trying to help an Autistic person is like walking in the dark. You never know what's waiting for you out there. Even if you are on the spectrum yourself you still can't fully understand what's going on in a mind of another one on the spectrum. So should every parent believe and try to go above and beyond especially when their resources are very limited? Some people say - they don't have to, that they didn't sign up for having a child with disability, they just have to do they best they can.
Imagine you walk in the middle of the woods with a group of friends and then suddenly you fall into a hole in the ground. They try to reach you, they throw you a rope but nothing works. After all this some will leave, some will stay for a while maybe will try to cheer you up and things like that. And imagine that the hole is so deep that they can barely hear you. You might have advised them a good way to get you out but they can't understand. I know the allegory (hope I used the word right ) might not be very realistic... but I hope it's clear.
I think I'm going to end here. It's 1am and it's a busy day tomorrow.
What do you think about all this? Should people try to uncover those hidden potentials or should they at some point convince themselves that it's impossible, or that they reached the dead end?
Sometimes I think that when you have some sort of developmental disability...or maybe even any other one but let's say from birth, it's hard to believe that you can be something more than what you are. I think it's important for people surrounding that kind of person to believe in impossible for him/ her for a while so he/ she could realize it later one step at a time. It's very easy to be disappointed it's much harder to turn it into a fuel for improvement. The question is why should they do it? Trying to help an Autistic person is like walking in the dark. You never know what's waiting for you out there. Even if you are on the spectrum yourself you still can't fully understand what's going on in a mind of another one on the spectrum. So should every parent believe and try to go above and beyond especially when their resources are very limited? Some people say - they don't have to, that they didn't sign up for having a child with disability, they just have to do they best they can.
Imagine you walk in the middle of the woods with a group of friends and then suddenly you fall into a hole in the ground. They try to reach you, they throw you a rope but nothing works. After all this some will leave, some will stay for a while maybe will try to cheer you up and things like that. And imagine that the hole is so deep that they can barely hear you. You might have advised them a good way to get you out but they can't understand. I know the allegory (hope I used the word right ) might not be very realistic... but I hope it's clear.
I think I'm going to end here. It's 1am and it's a busy day tomorrow.
What do you think about all this? Should people try to uncover those hidden potentials or should they at some point convince themselves that it's impossible, or that they reached the dead end?