I thought this might be good advice, or words for other guys.
My biggest hurdle to attracting women is that I see them as a goal, not as a person. I see women I am attracted to and get tunnel vision.
I need to learn that there are many beautiful women, and the best way to attract them is to treat them like a friend. be nice to them, focus on their face, not on their bodies.
Its difficult because I feel so much sexual tension around women i have eyes for. But flirting is friendly, at first. Its how people get to know one another.
Since I decided to be celibate I have better times with women. Now I flirt with them but without the pressure. Just another lovely lady, another individual, unique person. Not an object or a goal or game (as in hunting).
This outlook has helped me a lot.
My biggest hurdle to attracting women is that I see them as a goal, not as a person. I see women I am attracted to and get tunnel vision.
I need to learn that there are many beautiful women, and the best way to attract them is to treat them like a friend. be nice to them, focus on their face, not on their bodies.
Its difficult because I feel so much sexual tension around women i have eyes for. But flirting is friendly, at first. Its how people get to know one another.
Since I decided to be celibate I have better times with women. Now I flirt with them but without the pressure. Just another lovely lady, another individual, unique person. Not an object or a goal or game (as in hunting).
This outlook has helped me a lot.