ConnerAnderson
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I recently became a roommate to an older couple. Recently, One of my new roommates has been making comments that have made me a bit uncomfortable. I made a joke, and when questioned said "nevermind, I was just being a smartass" which was a fairly normal thing to say in this context. The response was that I might be a smartass, but that I have a cute ass. After this, a few other things were said about me in a joking tone, but were equally suggestive.
This sounds really bad on the surface, and it might be, but there are complicating factors I am having trouble parsing out due to my lack of social sense. First, this couple are in their sixties and rather small and frail, while I am a two hundred and fifty pound man who lifts heavy things eight hours a day for a living. As such, I am in absolutely no danger, and from what I have studied of flirting in general, that influences what level of flirting is acceptable. More casual flirting seems to be directly proportional to how well people know each other, as well as power balance. A small man can flirt much more aggressively to a woman twice his size he knows than a large man can flirt with a small women he barely knows. As such, while this is well beyond what I am used to, we do know each other, and I could crush them like tin cans if anything bad happened and they know it.
As such, is this just a social misstep I should honestly confront, and just tell them I am uncomfortable with it, is it just casual flirting and I should just let it be, or should I get the heck out of here?
This sounds really bad on the surface, and it might be, but there are complicating factors I am having trouble parsing out due to my lack of social sense. First, this couple are in their sixties and rather small and frail, while I am a two hundred and fifty pound man who lifts heavy things eight hours a day for a living. As such, I am in absolutely no danger, and from what I have studied of flirting in general, that influences what level of flirting is acceptable. More casual flirting seems to be directly proportional to how well people know each other, as well as power balance. A small man can flirt much more aggressively to a woman twice his size he knows than a large man can flirt with a small women he barely knows. As such, while this is well beyond what I am used to, we do know each other, and I could crush them like tin cans if anything bad happened and they know it.
As such, is this just a social misstep I should honestly confront, and just tell them I am uncomfortable with it, is it just casual flirting and I should just let it be, or should I get the heck out of here?