Socializing is very difficult for me. Sometimes I do want to socialize but it’s very very tiring. I’m content to be alone or with just one or two people. Groups are hard and parties are really stressful.
For most of my life I’ve just avoided get togethers. Now I try to plan ahead to get some rest and solidarity before and after.
It’s had an impact on my marriage and I’m trying to get better at it. At least now I know why I haven’t wanted to go to family parties m stuff. My wife is understanding now too and we plan together. A spur of the moment get together is near impossible for me though.
Yes, a surprise event or random event to socialize really knocks me too. I can’t do it.
In my first year, I had no plans to attend the Christmas party at the university but “concerned “ staff made me go. I had even asked them to leave me alone, that I was fine and I still had to go. The way it was organized ensured that I was up on the main table (with a few others too) where it lasted for a long time. I was so tired. I didn’t stay for the after party. It was too much.
I’m glad that your wife now plans with you. That’s good.