The Outsider
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I feel awful right about now. It’s like having Asperger’s has done more harm than good for me. I’m not saying this in an “I want to be cured” way, since that’s probably not an option anyway. Sometimes I feel Asperger’s is a gift and other times a burden. I feel it is very much a burden on me right now because I feel like I’m getting worse over time. I get fixated on things like wanting a sex change and almost no advice surrounding that really seems to make me feel better. A lot of this could be my perfectionism kicking in too. I physically feel more like an effeminate man than a transwoman. I so badly want to feel female. I was even hospitalized over this over a month ago and I felt like they didn’t help. I think the people I talk to regarding transition are going to use my Asperger’s as a strike against me for somehow not “really” being transgender. I really hate this because it’s me basically being told I’m too stupid to understand my own struggles.
I feel my perfectionism has done a lot more harm than good for me as well. I keep thinking things are not good enough and that bothers me. I’ll like to design video games, but my ideas keep changing because I’m so focused on perfectionism. I won’t accept just good enough, instead, I keep pushing. I’m not in any kind of active development because I feel I keep changing my mind and I lack the motivation. Perhaps my drive for creativity has helped a lot, but the perfectionism is a package deal. Also just to make it clear, “selling ideas” isn’t a thing because why would someone want to spend a lot of time, effort, and money to create someone else’s idea and then pay that person for simply having an idea and nothing else? The people who suggest this to me never try anything like this themselves. It’s such a misconception that I don’t understand why it spreads around so much.
I barely feel like I have a place in society. I spend so much time questioning it that I tend to find all kinds of flaws and negative aspects about it. I feel I can get little help from it too. I hate how politicalized the LGBT community has become and how I’m not supposed to say certain things like how transwomen are biologically male or transmen are biologically female. That’s not me saying they’re not the gender they present as. I can’t pretend I’m biologically female when I’m not. I have such a hardline view of the world and I can’t stand anything I consider denialism. This is also why I have such a hard time accepting myself for who I am. I swear being different is still something that’s cause for alarm, not celebrated despite all the talks of diversity I hear about. That’s not to say science is the end all be all in how we understand the world, but I consider it the most valid method of doing so.
I hate being an outsider. I hate not being able to feel like I just can’t be happy. I’m always thinking and questioning things. Sometimes I feel like bursting into tears. I’m so self-aware of all this too. I hate lacking social skills in a social heavy society. Either attempts to learn it doesn’t help much or I find the social norms stupid. I’m not even being very logical right now. Being depressed doesn’t make good things happen, yet here I am doing that anyway. I barely have any energy, I can barely eat, and I feel like even playing video games takes too much effort at times.
Maybe this venting will help me feel better.
I feel my perfectionism has done a lot more harm than good for me as well. I keep thinking things are not good enough and that bothers me. I’ll like to design video games, but my ideas keep changing because I’m so focused on perfectionism. I won’t accept just good enough, instead, I keep pushing. I’m not in any kind of active development because I feel I keep changing my mind and I lack the motivation. Perhaps my drive for creativity has helped a lot, but the perfectionism is a package deal. Also just to make it clear, “selling ideas” isn’t a thing because why would someone want to spend a lot of time, effort, and money to create someone else’s idea and then pay that person for simply having an idea and nothing else? The people who suggest this to me never try anything like this themselves. It’s such a misconception that I don’t understand why it spreads around so much.
I barely feel like I have a place in society. I spend so much time questioning it that I tend to find all kinds of flaws and negative aspects about it. I feel I can get little help from it too. I hate how politicalized the LGBT community has become and how I’m not supposed to say certain things like how transwomen are biologically male or transmen are biologically female. That’s not me saying they’re not the gender they present as. I can’t pretend I’m biologically female when I’m not. I have such a hardline view of the world and I can’t stand anything I consider denialism. This is also why I have such a hard time accepting myself for who I am. I swear being different is still something that’s cause for alarm, not celebrated despite all the talks of diversity I hear about. That’s not to say science is the end all be all in how we understand the world, but I consider it the most valid method of doing so.
I hate being an outsider. I hate not being able to feel like I just can’t be happy. I’m always thinking and questioning things. Sometimes I feel like bursting into tears. I’m so self-aware of all this too. I hate lacking social skills in a social heavy society. Either attempts to learn it doesn’t help much or I find the social norms stupid. I’m not even being very logical right now. Being depressed doesn’t make good things happen, yet here I am doing that anyway. I barely have any energy, I can barely eat, and I feel like even playing video games takes too much effort at times.
Maybe this venting will help me feel better.