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Chris

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Okay... so who else hates talking on the phone? Unless I know exactly who is calling me and I feel like talking to them, I won't answer the phone. I hate it unless its family or people I know very closely, thank god the internet is starting to take over most services like getting quotes for car insurance and that kind of thing. If I can, I'll normally text. :)
 
I hate it too. I hate not knowing who it is, and I hate not being able to tell what the look on their face is or when it's my turn to talk. It's just too unpredictable. My Mum and Dad know I'm weird on the phone but other people will just think I'm strange or impolite. Chris and me are okay on the phone though. Ish. I think?
 
I hate being on the phone but what I hate about it more is the fact I could never get through to a person, I tried getting through to my girlfriend but it turns out that I got hanged up on twice. :(
 
I already answered a question like this on AspiesCentral. Here's what I wrote:

I prefer to text people than to answer the phone. I can talk to my friends alright on the phone but they always say I sound a lot like my brother. One time when I phoned my dad up at work, I was actually talking to my uncle without realizing it. So yeah, we all sound a like over the phone. At home though, I have a policy of not answering the phone as there is a 99.999% chance it won't be for me and even if it was, I'm usually busy on the computer anyway. The only exception I will make is if my grandparents want to talk to me or if my auntie/uncle from America phoned.

Like I said though, when talking to friends on the mobile it's alright. I don't say much and wouldn't phone them up for a conversation as such, it would be more of a "Where are you?" What time's the train?" Where will we meet?" type of thing. I generally don't have long conversations over the phone.
 
If the phone rings, well chances arent very high Ill take it unless I really like the person calling.
If I myself have to make a call thats all right but still im a bit hyper I guess also if I drink a cup of tea first etc.
 
I only answer the phone if it's my parents, brother or uncle. But then, no one else of any real importance calls our house :D I do not own a mobile, never, ever will, evil spawn of the technology imps, grrrr.
 
I have to call my clients and my clients' parents on the phone at the beginning of each semester and sometimes throughout the semester ("Is it okay if I give your child M&M's as part of a therapy activity?" "Would you mind preparing a story to share with group this week?"). It's one of the few parts I don't like about being a clinician. I'm okay leaving a message because I usually write up a script beforehand, but if someone picks up, I really struggle with what to say--especially how to end the conversation. It's always this awkward "Have a nice day," "bye" "bye", mess of interrupting and stammering. Ick.

Oddly, I have very little difficulty informally interacting with my clients and their parents now. Thankfully I was placed in group sessions (first accent reduction with adults, then "phonology and language with literacy" for preschoolers) for my first two clinicals, so I could let the other clinicians talk to the clients and their parents during the transitions to the therapy rooms and out (and also use their conversations as a model). The clients/parents seemed to just think I was a quiet person. Now it's easier to take my individual clients from the waiting room to the therapy room and back and make "small-talk" conversation with them.

I still get nervous when I have to go over goals and semester reports, though. (Wow, sorry, I got quite a bit off the topic of communicating with phones).
 
krisi said:
I have to call my clients and my clients' parents on the phone at the beginning of each semester and sometimes throughout the semester ("Is it okay if I give your child M&M's as part of a therapy activity?" "Would you mind preparing a story to share with group this week?"). It's one of the few parts I don't like about being a clinician. I'm okay leaving a message because I usually write up a script beforehand, but if someone picks up, I really struggle with what to say--especially how to end the conversation. It's always this awkward "Have a nice day," "bye" "bye", mess of interrupting and stammering. Ick.

Oddly, I have very little difficulty informally interacting with my clients and their parents now. Thankfully I was placed in group sessions (first accent reduction with adults, then "phonology and language with literacy" for preschoolers) for my first two clinicals, so I could let the other clinicians talk to the clients and their parents during the transitions to the therapy rooms and out (and also use their conversations as a model). The clients/parents seemed to just think I was a quiet person. Now it's easier to take my individual clients from the waiting room to the therapy room and back and make "small-talk" conversation with them.

I still get nervous when I have to go over goals and semester reports, though. (Wow, sorry, I got quite a bit off the topic of communicating with phones).
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Thats actually pretty awesome you don't have any difficulty with communicating with your clients and your parents, for me, it would be pretty draining aswell.

(I wouldn't worry too much about going a little off topic, it seemed really interesting to read).
 
^^Krisi, I'm the same when it comes to work. I'm actually a very good communicator when I am talking to people at work about work issues. I am good at presenting courses and chairing meetings, although I've been told that I'm at danger of putting people to sleep with my monotone voice. Also I'm fine with guiding people, sitting down with people and explaining tricky concepts and ideas to them. A big part of it is having confidence in my knowledge of the subject matter. Socialising is where I struggle.

When it comes to talking on the phone I tend to talk too much, to go into too much detail, to monologue. That is what my wife tells me when she overhears me talking to people on the phone, and she is right.
 
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