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*hiss* younger sisters....My younger sister is the favourite. She could get away with anything, whereas I was always held to a much stricter standard. I just ignore it, and occasionally b***h to my husband.
*hiss* younger sisters....
Did any of you guys have a sibling in which your parents favoured? If so, how did you handle it?
I was the favorite in my family because I was naturally more inclined to be super obedient like a puppet or a robot. I had to deal with so much stress in my life that I had a hard time thinking for myself. I had my outlets which I used, but things were quite mundane besides those outlets. As I grew up more independently on my own as much as possible, I have slowly gained so much self-awareness that I feel like a completely different person now than I was even 5 years ago.
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Addendum details to being a "favorite":
5 years ago, I was probably still a favorite, even though I never tried to be. Even being a "favorite", I was still yelled at even if I was trying my best and never meant any harm, and even if it was for something that wasn't a big deal.
I "took it" cause I was used to it and because I knew that person cared about me despite all that. After digging deep recently, I know why she is like that. Instead of simply taking the yelling, I try to redirect once and not start a useless argument. I know that I need to take these opportunities to learn as much as I can now because no one else is likely to give me these kind of opportunities. So, I will still need to deal with the unnecessary yelling and anger, just that I need to deal with it differently.
I had become so brain washed to accept this behavior as part of my life because that person's actions still showed she cared about me, but just couldn't control her attitude. Until more recently, I didn't really have a set of close friends I could talk to or hang out with at all. So, I had to create my own identity by building up my independence. I did this by focusing on my job and going to interest groups through meetup.com where I did not have to socialize before joining the group because I would already be part of the group by just having some kind of interest in the interest of the group itself, lol.
I don't regret my decisions in life, but I wish I was smarter and didn't accidentally scare some people off due to my insecurities and bad experiences from many events in my past life and work experiences as well as having randomly weird, inappropriate thoughts and misunderstandings. I wish I had stood up for myself more during my high school and college years than I did sometimes. All I can do now it look at the present and the future.
regularly revolted against our father,