No, they won't, friend. If my chances are 1 in 100 to get a date with a person, let's add the Costanza factor and square that for 1 in 10,000, except it's worse than that because the years say so. I hate this life so, so much. I cannot even begin to describe how much I hate existing on this planet. I wonder why it's beyond me to comprehend why stuff works this way. Maybe in a hundred more years, I'll discover some additional mysterious quirk of mine that nobody explains to me because they've already cut me off by the time they've noticed it, plus they hate themselves for being cruel and they project it onto me.
Alright, I'm gonna just be super blunt about this, so be ready for that...
But when I'm reading through this post here, and some of the other stuff you've said, what I see is basically an attitude of "woe is me" over and over and over again. And I'm going to tell you right now, THAT is part of the problem.
Here's the thing: other people, particularly NTs, spot that from a mile away. It hangs about you like a messed up cloud, raining on anything or anyone it gets near. And most people dont want to hang near someone who is followed by that cloud. It's just natural for people to NOT want to be around that. And yes, it will show even if you try to hide it.
I'm saying this because I used to do the very same thing you're doing, once upon a time... it's one of the reasons I call myself "Misery". A reminder of what I used to be, and a warning against ever reverting back to that state.
And indeed, back then, nobody wanted to be around me. It pushed everyone away, and all I could think of was "geez everything sucks, I suck, everyone just hates me, I can never accomplish this or that or have friends or whatever, everything is so hard, too hard, just too hard". Over and over and over again for years I did this. So many years.
Eventually though, someone far wiser than I am came along and sort of forcibly snapped me out of that mindset. No more cloud, no more "woe is me". This person really drilled that in, and wouldnt accept any whining from me either. My overall personality effectively reversed as a result... Instead of being a walking ball of dark spikyness, I'm now sorta... irritatingly positive and I never, ever give up. And suddenly, after making that change, things changed wildly. That cloud was gone, not raining on anyone anymore. And indeed, I met people. Made friends. Not like a huge amount of friends, I'm still just naturally reclusive, but still. And when it comes to romance, well... I personally have no interest in the idea, but I have been approached before, more than once (and I turned them down each time, politely of course). Other things happened, too. I even got to fulfill a childhood dream! Something I never thought I'd ever get to do.
But all this happened because I went and changed my attitude. I mean heck, I literally took a life-changing action just a few days ago, a very positive but REALLY difficult one, which absolutely could not have happened if I were still in my previous state.
Something I've said to others on here, over and over again, is this: if you dont make a change, REALLY make a change, then nothing around you will change. YOU have to do it, not the world around you. It's hard to make changes, particularly for us on the spectrum. But this isnt something that can be avoided. If you want to achieve what you're after... you MUST do it. But you have to ACTUALLY do it, not sorta halfway do it for a week while inwardly assuming it wont work, and then complain it doesnt work. You keep going and you dont... give... up. Fall down? GET BACK UP. Fall down again? Heck with that, you're getting back up. That's what does it. It aint easy, and I'm not about to pretend that it is. It's very hard. But it's worth doing.
Seriously, I aint just saying this out of nowhere. I lived it. And yes, I know I likely sound pretty harsh with this, but... look, I aint one to sugarcoat things. Neither was the person who effectively came along and saved me from myself. Sometimes "harsh" is necessary.
Of course, what you do with all of this that I'm saying is up to you. You can either achieve a change by MAKING a change, a REAL change that you actually stick with, or you can keep going around and around on the rotting carousel you are currently sitting on. Which option sounds better to you?
