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I think if I ever really did want to date, online would be the only way to do it since most people I've met in person have said I'm "not their type."
Not that I think it would be much different online, since I obviously still look and act the same, but maybe I'd be more likely to meet other autistic LGBTQ women.
I would also have way more options than I currently do living in a very small town where I already know pretty much everyone.
Try OKcupid. I enjoy it as you can write a long profile and it has hundreds, if not thousands of questions to answer. So you end up being able to match to potential friends/dates.
Ed
Yep.Sorry if I'm out of the loop or if I misunderstood - it sounds like you're saying that Facebook has expanded beyond being a social networking (and selling) site and into dating as well??
Yeah I'm debating trying Facebook again for this purpose. I've looked into other dating sites but, the review were atrocious and very disheartening. Mostly scams. Not to mention I'm not very tech savvy.I don't have a lot of options around here because my home is isolated and I don't have tons of friends.
Being asexual or demisexual (I'm bad with labels) takes the urgency out of finding a girlfriend. It also makes you less likely to get a girlfriend generally.
I met someone on Catholic Match (yes I'm embarrassed for myself too) and we both had poor results finding a lot of people we liked. I looked at unattractive ladies' pictures for thirty minutes and said to myself I am going to write to this girl first because she's a nice honest face and she seems decent.
She'd been on there a month ago still had almost zero interest from men.
Anyway that was in July and I no longer have a dating site profile because we are happy as we can be working on getting to know each other better.
It's actually very nice, and I am going to see her again today. I've seen her parents and she has seen mine and no one has initiated hostility so yay.
I still would not recommend dating in Facebook and I am skeptical of dating sites like Catholic Match due to the userbase being mostly men. (Imagine that. LOL.) Furthermore, most girls were very sheltered and had some serious issues, such as being in this only to have a ton of kids, or being really into conspiracy theories, or being old enough to draw Social Security pensions but for the fact they are in Ecuador.
Girlfriend and I still can't believe we managed to get lucky and find each other. We had a wonderful first date within a week of talking and have not given up. I'm not expert but I think we are in it long term. Let's see what happens when we graduate college.l
I didnt realize that facebook even did dating. So I’ve learned something today. I get the impression that online dating is a minefield and can really depend on the people that you meet on these places.Made the attempt on Facebook. Sheesh that's complicated stuff. Lots of overseas recommendations. For any USA dating site.
Not to mention it's pretty stiff and unreliable operation. Felt like I was sofacating on there.
Not kind at all to first users.
Most likely for me too since my community is quite small and I am not the type to go into the bars and nightclubs that are specific for this — and I cant pretend to be comfortable in those places either. There are certain online sites for LGBTQ women: Her, Okcupid, Tinder, One scene. Although you have to be Careful with actual guys on there looking for lesbian women to turn straight (rolls eyes). And there are also some really weird people that use them but it is the same for any dating app or meeting in real life places.I think if I ever really did want to date, online would be the only way to do it since most people I've met in person have said I'm "not their type."
Not that I think it would be much different online, since I obviously still look and act the same, but maybe I'd be more likely to meet other autistic LGBTQ women.
I would also have way more options than I currently do living in a very small town where I already know pretty much everyone.
How wonderful! I hope you are on your way to a long-term relationship. As that settles in you wii have different work to do. I think it was not luck, but a willingness to connect and acceptance of another person that allowed you two to find each other. A nice, positive, story. Always remember it.I don't have a lot of options around here because my home is isolated and I don't have tons of friends.
Being asexual or demisexual (I'm bad with labels) takes the urgency out of finding a girlfriend. It also makes you less likely to get a girlfriend generally.
I met someone on Catholic Match (yes I'm embarrassed for myself too) and we both had poor results finding a lot of people we liked. I looked at unattractive ladies' pictures for thirty minutes and said to myself I am going to write to this girl first because she's a nice honest face and she seems decent.
She'd been on there a month ago still had almost zero interest from men.
Anyway that was in July and I no longer have a dating site profile because we are happy as we can be working on getting to know each other better.
It's actually very nice, and I am going to see her again today. I've seen her parents and she has seen mine and no one has initiated hostility so yay.
I still would not recommend dating in Facebook and I am skeptical of dating sites like Catholic Match due to the userbase being mostly men. (Imagine that. LOL.) Furthermore, most girls were very sheltered and had some serious issues, such as being in this only to have a ton of kids, or being really into conspiracy theories, or being old enough to draw Social Security pensions but for the fact they are in Ecuador.
Girlfriend and I still can't believe we managed to get lucky and find each other. We had a wonderful first date within a week of talking and have not given up. I'm not expert but I think we are in it long term. Let's see what happens when we graduate college.l
Made the attempt on Facebook. Sheesh that's complicated stuff. Lots of overseas recommendations. For any USA dating site.
Not to mention it's pretty stiff and unreliable operation. Felt like I was sofacating on there.
Not kind at all to first users.
Facebook is a bit of a dumpster fire in my book, so I've never used it for dating, either.
I should mention that I've been with my wife for almost 9 years and we met on Plenty of Fish. lol
This is off topic but omg your dog is identical to mine.Hey there! If you're specifically looking for a USA dating site, have you tried out some more popular ones like OkCupid or Match?
Plenty of Fish... Now there's a site I forgot aboutFacebook is a bit of a dumpster fire in my book, so I've never used it for dating, either.
I should mention that I've been with my wife for almost 9 years and we met on Plenty of Fish. lol