Saki
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Hey guys! This is my first post here.
My aspie ex broke up with me late Jan early Feb of this year bc he isn't in a good place rn and can't commit to anything, not bc he doesn't have feelings for me anymore. We were together a little less than 2 months, but only a week or two before the breakup he was super excited to meet my parents and go on our first date. He is super timid and shy and so even if he still has something for me, he won't come out and say it. I've always been the one having to initiate things between us. When we broke up, I didn't fight for it, for him, asking for a break or something. I just let it go and I regret that. We've texted a few times since the breakup, me always being the one to initiate, which is fine, and he's been super responsive and attentive to the convo. He'll respond almost right away and doesn't leave me on read or give one-word answers. He also told me I wasn't annoying him by texting him, as I asked him at one point bc it just seemed that way. I'm thinking about texting him in the upcoming week about the breakup, but don't know what to ask because I don't want him back rn, as we're both not in a good place and I want to respect his reasoning for the breakup, but also he's one of the most amazing, smart, funny, cute and just incredible men I've ever met. If I had one of the machines where I could create my dream guy, he would be the one to pop out. I want to ask something about our future, but ik that's a super bold thing to do, and also super weird. I'm also scared by me doing this I'll ruin the friendship we have and he'll end up resenting me, as it may come across creepy? Idk I think I'm overthinking a lot of this. I'm wondering if there is a chance of us getting back together somehow, or just me communicating how I want to help him get through his issues. Ik aspies and people on the spectrum need space, and I'm willing to give that to him he just never asked for it. I'm not sure if this all made sense, as I can't even really formulate it out all in my head. I guess I kinda just want him to know that no matter how lost he is, I'll still fight for him. Thanks!
Update: So I ended up messaging him last night and turns out he doesn't have feelings for me anymore; that he lost them a few weeks before he broke up with me but wanted to make sure it wasn't the distance that was making him feel that way. He said he still wants to remain friends but is "obviously keeping distance" which didn't make much sense to me but it's whatever. I just want to thank everyone again for their help! I'm really glad I messaged him about it; I'm 100% ok I couldn't stop smiling after I found out. I guess it's because I now know I can move on without thinking "what if," you know? Thank again!
My aspie ex broke up with me late Jan early Feb of this year bc he isn't in a good place rn and can't commit to anything, not bc he doesn't have feelings for me anymore. We were together a little less than 2 months, but only a week or two before the breakup he was super excited to meet my parents and go on our first date. He is super timid and shy and so even if he still has something for me, he won't come out and say it. I've always been the one having to initiate things between us. When we broke up, I didn't fight for it, for him, asking for a break or something. I just let it go and I regret that. We've texted a few times since the breakup, me always being the one to initiate, which is fine, and he's been super responsive and attentive to the convo. He'll respond almost right away and doesn't leave me on read or give one-word answers. He also told me I wasn't annoying him by texting him, as I asked him at one point bc it just seemed that way. I'm thinking about texting him in the upcoming week about the breakup, but don't know what to ask because I don't want him back rn, as we're both not in a good place and I want to respect his reasoning for the breakup, but also he's one of the most amazing, smart, funny, cute and just incredible men I've ever met. If I had one of the machines where I could create my dream guy, he would be the one to pop out. I want to ask something about our future, but ik that's a super bold thing to do, and also super weird. I'm also scared by me doing this I'll ruin the friendship we have and he'll end up resenting me, as it may come across creepy? Idk I think I'm overthinking a lot of this. I'm wondering if there is a chance of us getting back together somehow, or just me communicating how I want to help him get through his issues. Ik aspies and people on the spectrum need space, and I'm willing to give that to him he just never asked for it. I'm not sure if this all made sense, as I can't even really formulate it out all in my head. I guess I kinda just want him to know that no matter how lost he is, I'll still fight for him. Thanks!
Update: So I ended up messaging him last night and turns out he doesn't have feelings for me anymore; that he lost them a few weeks before he broke up with me but wanted to make sure it wasn't the distance that was making him feel that way. He said he still wants to remain friends but is "obviously keeping distance" which didn't make much sense to me but it's whatever. I just want to thank everyone again for their help! I'm really glad I messaged him about it; I'm 100% ok I couldn't stop smiling after I found out. I guess it's because I now know I can move on without thinking "what if," you know? Thank again!
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