redrose
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Hello, I'm interested in a guy who has AS and really like to know how can a girl tell if he is romantically interested too. We've been texting for about half a year now. In the beginning I felt sorry for him as he was bullied and can't seem to defend himself. He is very shy and quiet most of the time. I reached out to him just so he don't feel so alone and later found out he is on the autism spectrum. We often see each other and talk 5-6 times a week. I was surprise what a delightful person he turns out to be and we actually share some interests in video games, history and music.
For the first 3 weeks I had to start conversations first as he was very shy. Then later we took turns. He started to open up a bit and talks a lot about his family and daily routines. A few months back he seems to be the one initiating contact all the time, he seems to care for me in his own way & I feel a deep appreciation. For example he would held the door open for me, wait for my lunch to arrive before he eats his, even offers to car pool, he would asks me how was my day, did I have a good lunch, what I thought about certain things, would not hesitant to help me if I needed anything, he would even compliment me. And his compliments never fail to touch me deeply as most guys would be complimenting something on the surface like "dress looks good on you" or "you look pretty" "sweet girl".
Sometimes he does get carried away talking about tech/cars which I'm too interested but he always stops himself and asks if he is not being annoying/not talking my ear off. Even when he doesn't really know what to talk to about he still says hello. Usually he has difficulty making eye contact but he does try to look me in the eye for as long as he can. When I'm happy he would catch my eyes from across the room and smile with me as if he shares my happiness. I even caught him looking at me when he thought I wasn't looking and when I look back he would quickly look away.
It seems like he's into me and the feeling is mutual till he one day asked me a hypothetical question which goes something like "If in the near future a guy wants to ask this girl to be his girlfriend and he wants to get a gift for her what is the most suitable gift?" I was so curious I asked him why? He just said he wanted to know my honest answer. I picked one and asked him again to tell me the reason. Then he told me he wanted to ask another girl to be his girlfriend. I was so crushed but I wanted to know more like how come I never heard of this girl till now. He told me they have been texting 1-2 times a week for a year. And he knew 3-4 very general and basic things about her.
Seems very suspicious but I can't tell if he is lying as most of the time he has been a very open & honest person. He doesn't seem like he wants to go on talking about her, he changed the subject. What do you all think? I try looking for signs how to tell an aspie is into you. I don't want to ask him just yet as I'm afraid it may ruin our friendship right now.
Any feedback is much appreciated.
For the first 3 weeks I had to start conversations first as he was very shy. Then later we took turns. He started to open up a bit and talks a lot about his family and daily routines. A few months back he seems to be the one initiating contact all the time, he seems to care for me in his own way & I feel a deep appreciation. For example he would held the door open for me, wait for my lunch to arrive before he eats his, even offers to car pool, he would asks me how was my day, did I have a good lunch, what I thought about certain things, would not hesitant to help me if I needed anything, he would even compliment me. And his compliments never fail to touch me deeply as most guys would be complimenting something on the surface like "dress looks good on you" or "you look pretty" "sweet girl".
Sometimes he does get carried away talking about tech/cars which I'm too interested but he always stops himself and asks if he is not being annoying/not talking my ear off. Even when he doesn't really know what to talk to about he still says hello. Usually he has difficulty making eye contact but he does try to look me in the eye for as long as he can. When I'm happy he would catch my eyes from across the room and smile with me as if he shares my happiness. I even caught him looking at me when he thought I wasn't looking and when I look back he would quickly look away.
It seems like he's into me and the feeling is mutual till he one day asked me a hypothetical question which goes something like "If in the near future a guy wants to ask this girl to be his girlfriend and he wants to get a gift for her what is the most suitable gift?" I was so curious I asked him why? He just said he wanted to know my honest answer. I picked one and asked him again to tell me the reason. Then he told me he wanted to ask another girl to be his girlfriend. I was so crushed but I wanted to know more like how come I never heard of this girl till now. He told me they have been texting 1-2 times a week for a year. And he knew 3-4 very general and basic things about her.
Seems very suspicious but I can't tell if he is lying as most of the time he has been a very open & honest person. He doesn't seem like he wants to go on talking about her, he changed the subject. What do you all think? I try looking for signs how to tell an aspie is into you. I don't want to ask him just yet as I'm afraid it may ruin our friendship right now.
Any feedback is much appreciated.
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