JDartistic
Well-Known Member
how do you handle humiliations esp when you unintentionally hurt somebody?
I think many of us are socially challenged & I was out recently with 2 new friends I had met thru Match. We weren’t romantically involved but knew we could be good friends. I really liked them & I could tell we had a good dynamic.
But then we were all out during a Meet up event - that is, 10+ people, & someone asked me how we all met. I then said honestly that one of the women had a crush on me but I didn’t feel the same.
She then got pissed off & abruntly left. My other friend said to me that I was wrong to say that & that we were drama queens. She then basically told me I was a AH.
End result is that I tried so hard to make amends the next day. The one woman who left said I had embarrassed her & she wanted nothing to do with me. The other woman said the same thing about both of us saying we were both crazy & she didn’t want to deal with it.
So I basically lost 2 friends. This was done during a Meet Up event - which I organized - so everyone saw this exchange & now I’m seen as an AH by the peeps who were there.
How do I go on? I feel so sad that I hurt other people but also humiliated that I screwed It all up, again. Honestly, I didn’t even think what I did was so awful. To me, I just spoke a truth. Sadly, I hurt someone but that wasn’t my intention.
Now I’m just sad & feeling like a loser. That I can’t have friends cuz I’m such a AH. Worse, this is a pattern for me. Different situations but I still blunder thru them & end up feeling like crap.
How do others handle this?
I think many of us are socially challenged & I was out recently with 2 new friends I had met thru Match. We weren’t romantically involved but knew we could be good friends. I really liked them & I could tell we had a good dynamic.
But then we were all out during a Meet up event - that is, 10+ people, & someone asked me how we all met. I then said honestly that one of the women had a crush on me but I didn’t feel the same.
She then got pissed off & abruntly left. My other friend said to me that I was wrong to say that & that we were drama queens. She then basically told me I was a AH.
End result is that I tried so hard to make amends the next day. The one woman who left said I had embarrassed her & she wanted nothing to do with me. The other woman said the same thing about both of us saying we were both crazy & she didn’t want to deal with it.
So I basically lost 2 friends. This was done during a Meet Up event - which I organized - so everyone saw this exchange & now I’m seen as an AH by the peeps who were there.
How do I go on? I feel so sad that I hurt other people but also humiliated that I screwed It all up, again. Honestly, I didn’t even think what I did was so awful. To me, I just spoke a truth. Sadly, I hurt someone but that wasn’t my intention.
Now I’m just sad & feeling like a loser. That I can’t have friends cuz I’m such a AH. Worse, this is a pattern for me. Different situations but I still blunder thru them & end up feeling like crap.
How do others handle this?