This is a question for those who perhaps try really hard when either at work or school run or buying something... I just wonder if you can let me know how that is for you.
I go on the school run and other mums are all nattering and blah blah blah.... and I would really rather stand on my own. Which I did for a whole year before I was brought into a group. And even then I only stood with them at pick up.. not drop off. Which may have looked rude or odd.. I don't know. On the way there I will speed up or slow down to avoid 'the chat'... but obviously sometimes I get caught and it's tiring. Over time I have learnt things to ask and if they ask how I am then to say it back.. and to try not to go on about me too much... However I will never remember to ask them about something in their life that they may have told me was happening. They'll have to bring it up and then I remember.. and feel bad for not asking.
I hate having to be so cheerful and all that when I'm just there to get my kids (that sounds moodier than I mean! I am cheerful but I can't be bothered to talk!)
Shops are hard work as the cashier might speak. Argh. And I do that same cheerful 'weather' kind of talk. Normally I'll think it all through whilst waiting in the queue..
... Which I'll also do on the way to the school run...
Phonecalls. ..... wow. They are horrendous. I pretty much write a script for those. And I'll put off doing it for ages. I only like talking to my parent's or husband on the phone.
And lastly.. The hairdressers. Hehe. After they've asked me how I am and i answer and then say no more, they normally leave me in peace.
Basically I realise that I do try in all situations but it is so tiring. I need to think it all through first and rack my brains for things to ask if I'm caught by a different mum to usual or something. They seem so relaxed when my mind is racing to help me look 'normal'..!!
I go on the school run and other mums are all nattering and blah blah blah.... and I would really rather stand on my own. Which I did for a whole year before I was brought into a group. And even then I only stood with them at pick up.. not drop off. Which may have looked rude or odd.. I don't know. On the way there I will speed up or slow down to avoid 'the chat'... but obviously sometimes I get caught and it's tiring. Over time I have learnt things to ask and if they ask how I am then to say it back.. and to try not to go on about me too much... However I will never remember to ask them about something in their life that they may have told me was happening. They'll have to bring it up and then I remember.. and feel bad for not asking.
I hate having to be so cheerful and all that when I'm just there to get my kids (that sounds moodier than I mean! I am cheerful but I can't be bothered to talk!)
Shops are hard work as the cashier might speak. Argh. And I do that same cheerful 'weather' kind of talk. Normally I'll think it all through whilst waiting in the queue..
... Which I'll also do on the way to the school run...
Phonecalls. ..... wow. They are horrendous. I pretty much write a script for those. And I'll put off doing it for ages. I only like talking to my parent's or husband on the phone.
And lastly.. The hairdressers. Hehe. After they've asked me how I am and i answer and then say no more, they normally leave me in peace.
Basically I realise that I do try in all situations but it is so tiring. I need to think it all through first and rack my brains for things to ask if I'm caught by a different mum to usual or something. They seem so relaxed when my mind is racing to help me look 'normal'..!!