AspergerianYogi
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How did you do it? How long did it take? What demons/battles did you have to overcome in order to meet the person you were looking for? Right now, I'm trying to meet someone with whom I can build a relationship based on shared interests and values, and mostly encountering individuals who are struggling with some pretty serious drama, including ongoing battles with mental health and/or family instability. Or, at best, they're just immature in a way that I know would really trigger my own insecurities and imperfections and amplify them to a point where I'd forget who I am and what and who I care about most. I'm no saint - I struggled really hard throughout my twenties with all of those issues and am so grateful to have come out on the other side of this feeling like I can can now be considerate toward others and appreciate them and the time I spend with them. But when I meet others who I'm attracted to who are my age and still up ****'s creek without a paddle, I just go right back to feeling like I'll never escape my past of seeing myself as damaged goods and in turn being deserving of someone who also feels this way.
Is this an Aspie thing or a common human thing? I know that there's a stereotype about people on the spectrum having difficulty with relationships but I mean I feel like it shouldn't be THIS hard to meet people who have the skill set to demonstrate their good qualities.
Is this an Aspie thing or a common human thing? I know that there's a stereotype about people on the spectrum having difficulty with relationships but I mean I feel like it shouldn't be THIS hard to meet people who have the skill set to demonstrate their good qualities.