Noelle
Well-Known Member
Hello all
I'm 40 today, and quite happy about it (probably because I'm newly diagnosed with ASD) and feel like I've dodged a lot of bullets during my life because of my high functioning autism. Of course, I recognize that I've also probably missed out on heaps of opportunities that I may never even know about, due to the anxiety that comes with being autistic and independent.
I've been single, and satisfied (with my singleness) my entire life and have no desire to change this status. For awhile when I was younger, the social pressures to find a "mate" got to me and I started to worry that I was becoming too independent and selfish. Am I selfish for wanting to be on my own, take care of myself and not be concerned with anyone else? I can't abide touch, so having that kind of a relationship has always been out of the question for me.
Sometimes I do feel frustrated that there doesn't seem to be anyone else in the entire world who is like me. I'm not opposed to the idea of a lifelong companion. I'm introverted, but social enough that I would probably enjoy having a husband and family of in-laws to spend time with. But I know I could never fulfill the expectations that come with marriage. And no man my age, even one burned by divorce, is going to tolerate someone like me, so I've just never bothered with dating.
I'm also very ambitious and have always seen those kinds of relationships as obstacles that just get in the way of what I want. Btw- I'm not asexual. I learned that word a few years ago. I definitely like men... A LOT. No problem touching when I am the one doing it. I just cannot be touched back by anyone-- men, women or children.
I pray for God to connect me with people who not only understand this, but may experience this type of desire for singleness too. Anyone?
I'm 40 today, and quite happy about it (probably because I'm newly diagnosed with ASD) and feel like I've dodged a lot of bullets during my life because of my high functioning autism. Of course, I recognize that I've also probably missed out on heaps of opportunities that I may never even know about, due to the anxiety that comes with being autistic and independent.
I've been single, and satisfied (with my singleness) my entire life and have no desire to change this status. For awhile when I was younger, the social pressures to find a "mate" got to me and I started to worry that I was becoming too independent and selfish. Am I selfish for wanting to be on my own, take care of myself and not be concerned with anyone else? I can't abide touch, so having that kind of a relationship has always been out of the question for me.
Sometimes I do feel frustrated that there doesn't seem to be anyone else in the entire world who is like me. I'm not opposed to the idea of a lifelong companion. I'm introverted, but social enough that I would probably enjoy having a husband and family of in-laws to spend time with. But I know I could never fulfill the expectations that come with marriage. And no man my age, even one burned by divorce, is going to tolerate someone like me, so I've just never bothered with dating.
I'm also very ambitious and have always seen those kinds of relationships as obstacles that just get in the way of what I want. Btw- I'm not asexual. I learned that word a few years ago. I definitely like men... A LOT. No problem touching when I am the one doing it. I just cannot be touched back by anyone-- men, women or children.
I pray for God to connect me with people who not only understand this, but may experience this type of desire for singleness too. Anyone?