Do people consider you oblivious?

[AutisticallyInclined]

We all have our weaknesses in certain areas. What are your weak points?

But more pertinent to the title- is your demeanor considered competent but a tad asocial? Or are you like me and my dad- super social but WAY oblivious?

Some background knowledge is that my dad has HFA and I seem to somewhat as well. Because we are so . .loquacious(hehe) this means we (well used to) fall under the category of Aspergers, BUT I feel this the aura of competency might be a crucial difference between what makes someone Aspergers and what makes one considered plain old HFA.

So, that's what I'm trying to get at with this thread.

Let the replies commence!

 

[umbrellabeach]

One time my old youth leader told me that sometimes she would look at me and be able to tell that I'm not listening, although in truth I listen better when I'm visually focused away from the person talking. The only times I zoned out were when she started giving one of her long, rambling speeches or got into an off-topic discussion with one random person in the group and I found it boring. All other times, I really was listening, but she didn't think so.

 

[AutisticallyInclined]

Doesn't that piss you off? When people don't believe you/assume you are lying when you're not? This doesn't happen to me often but when it does- grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrumble. > : (

 

[AutisticallyInclined]

aw dag I can't edit that last post? it just felt so blah to me. ya know what i'm sayin'? ya dig?

 

[Judge]

I suspect some of my teachers thought so. They probably took my Aspie stare for daydreaming...:banghead:

 

[Ylva]

I hate my primary school teacher. How could she spend hours with me every day and not notice that something was up with me?

I'm relatively social, but I wish I weren't. I can read people to an extent, but it's all learned manually, not instinctually. I can control whether I pay attention or not, but it is certainly not thanks to the harassment I used to get from my teachers.

 

[Nestmc]

I'm not social. Not even a little. I don't like people and I don't like noises, and the people always make noises. I'm easily distracted, too, but also easy to notice that I'm not paying attention.

Although I don't like people, I always try to be kind and "normal", because my mother taught me to be like that, it's mechanical.

 

[umbrellabeach]

Oh, and one of the first times I went to Sunday school in our current church with my mom, this other lady came in and started asking Mom questions about me like I wasn't even there. Because of all my recent horrible social experiences/lost friendships and also the fact that I was completely new to the church, I was too shy to look up at her, so I guess she thought that meant it was okay to talk about me to someone else. Now, though, I kind of wish I'd looked up at her her straight in the eye, just to see her reaction.

 

[Ylva]

I watched this "documentary" about autistic children, and one of the mothers was like, "oh, my six-year-old doesn't hear me and doesn't respond and the world might as well not exist to her," and I was thinking, "well, maybe she just doesn't want to talk to you because you are a ***** to her." That was the woman who had talked about wanting to kill her children while they were sitting right behind her in the car. I would have avoided interactions with her too.

 

[Kelly]

I'm not social at all, when I try to speak I start mixing my words up, volume of my voice is all over, so most of the time I don't say a word when out in public, if someone speaks to me I try to keep it short yes/no is usually what comes out or a brief answer if I can't just say yes or no. I want to be social and have friends but it just doesn't work out, I can't even keep up any kind of social life online, I disappear from the internet for weeks/months at a time because I just don't know what to say or I'm just socially exhausted, I don't know how people interact every day, I find it so incredibly difficult.

 

[EricD]

Welcome, Kelly aboard the Aspieprise! It's ongoing mission, to explore a strange world that doesn't understand AS, to seek out a place where Aspies and Auties can be themselves, and to boldlu proclaim our neurodiversity and be accepted for who we are! ( cue dramatitic intro music from Star Trek 2009)