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Recently found the section in my local library on Autism (23/m). Turns out I have it. Always wondered if I had depression, diabetes, Low T, PTSD, Anxiety, etc. Essentially trying to find out "WTF is wrong with me? Why can't I be like the other kids??"
Well, ask the same question over and over, and eventually you'll get a different answer that explains things. I'm Autistic. (So is my little Sister, I think, 19 now, but it's not my job to diagnose her). No early intervention. Dad was drunk and Mom was suffering a lot. Both were unaware of warning signs.
So I'll try Pros and Cons:
PRO:
Finding the truth is like waking up from a nightmare. Like, that's why I was like that then, that explains how I am now. An Autism diagnosis sheds a positive, compassionate light on the past and present.
CON:
Now that I know this, my future looks a lot darker. Used to think I was just "still growing up". Now I know I'm actually handicapped. If my inexplicable failures, situation suicides and meltdowns are part of a disorder with no cure, I will need treatment to get through life from now on. Treatment I can't afford.
Feel more hopeless about the future than ever.
So past and present look better, future looks worse.
PRO:
Now I know the importance of getting into structure, eliminating maladaptive (funny this spell-checks only to manipulative... What is the board trying to tell me?) behaviors I've developed over the years, and developing coping mechanisms to replace them. Intellectually, I can develop a strategy for living. Activity schedules, picture instructions, encouraging words, and finding my strengths.
CON:
What if I come up with a personal way of dealing with my Autism, and the disorder itself progresses, so that I can't even follow with my day to day strategies for living? What if I fight and fight, keep things together, then say one day my laptop won't turn on and I have a tremendous breakdown at 27 or 28?
PRO:
In the past, I have always "brought down" any household and friendship I'm a part of. Being a burden on others. Breaking things and not understanding. Forgetting to return things. Withdrawing with no explanation. Regressing and hiding. Having fits. Now I know it's not my fault.
CON:
Future-wise, it's up to me to accept responsibility for managing my condition. Which is kind of unfair is all, when other people my age are managing careers, apartments with peers, pets, back to grad school, etc.
PRO:
Probably in spite of Autism, I persevered through college with a 2.97 GPA in Electrical Engineering, won 1st place in a Powerlifting competition, and held an office as treasurer for a year.
CON:
Being Autistic, I shouldn't have had so much control over my life decisions. My school choices got me $100,000 in debt, which I didn't really understand was "real". My extreme weight-lifting led me to a herniated disc and a torn shoulder (which have since healed in 2 yrs). And now that I'm an "Adult" in the functioning "real world", those loans seem pretty much impossible to do anything about. I've already lost 2 high paying Engineering jobs due to meltdowns, and I've been Unemployed the last 6 months.
Recently found the section in my local library on Autism (23/m). Turns out I have it. Always wondered if I had depression, diabetes, Low T, PTSD, Anxiety, etc. Essentially trying to find out "WTF is wrong with me? Why can't I be like the other kids??"
Well, ask the same question over and over, and eventually you'll get a different answer that explains things. I'm Autistic. (So is my little Sister, I think, 19 now, but it's not my job to diagnose her). No early intervention. Dad was drunk and Mom was suffering a lot. Both were unaware of warning signs.
So I'll try Pros and Cons:
PRO:
Finding the truth is like waking up from a nightmare. Like, that's why I was like that then, that explains how I am now. An Autism diagnosis sheds a positive, compassionate light on the past and present.
CON:
Now that I know this, my future looks a lot darker. Used to think I was just "still growing up". Now I know I'm actually handicapped. If my inexplicable failures, situation suicides and meltdowns are part of a disorder with no cure, I will need treatment to get through life from now on. Treatment I can't afford.
Feel more hopeless about the future than ever.
So past and present look better, future looks worse.
PRO:
Now I know the importance of getting into structure, eliminating maladaptive (funny this spell-checks only to manipulative... What is the board trying to tell me?) behaviors I've developed over the years, and developing coping mechanisms to replace them. Intellectually, I can develop a strategy for living. Activity schedules, picture instructions, encouraging words, and finding my strengths.
CON:
What if I come up with a personal way of dealing with my Autism, and the disorder itself progresses, so that I can't even follow with my day to day strategies for living? What if I fight and fight, keep things together, then say one day my laptop won't turn on and I have a tremendous breakdown at 27 or 28?
PRO:
In the past, I have always "brought down" any household and friendship I'm a part of. Being a burden on others. Breaking things and not understanding. Forgetting to return things. Withdrawing with no explanation. Regressing and hiding. Having fits. Now I know it's not my fault.
CON:
Future-wise, it's up to me to accept responsibility for managing my condition. Which is kind of unfair is all, when other people my age are managing careers, apartments with peers, pets, back to grad school, etc.
PRO:
Probably in spite of Autism, I persevered through college with a 2.97 GPA in Electrical Engineering, won 1st place in a Powerlifting competition, and held an office as treasurer for a year.
CON:
Being Autistic, I shouldn't have had so much control over my life decisions. My school choices got me $100,000 in debt, which I didn't really understand was "real". My extreme weight-lifting led me to a herniated disc and a torn shoulder (which have since healed in 2 yrs). And now that I'm an "Adult" in the functioning "real world", those loans seem pretty much impossible to do anything about. I've already lost 2 high paying Engineering jobs due to meltdowns, and I've been Unemployed the last 6 months.
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