I often suffer sore shoulders, neck, and headaches. Progressive muscle relaxation and yoga help a great deal. Sometimes I'll also take a Tylenol.
I think yoga is helpful, but only as prevention. Once the pain has started, it's too late, and I'm stuck dealing with it for 2-3 days. Tylenol can dull the pain slightly, so it's more 'fuzzy' pain than sharp pain, but that's about it. That's probably because of my bad shoulder.
When it came to being a woman though, it suddenly mattered very much that people accept me, that they not see me as some kind of freak.
Do you think that is just how you felt because of transitioning, or something that is a result of greater pressure to conform for women? I wouldn't be surprised if it's the latter.
Royinpink, I tried meditation but found it too difficult so I developed a trick that I found relaxing.
I imagine 1 red corpuscle in my big toe and I imagine this red cell moving up and down each toe, all over the feet, swirling around all the joints, mentally paying attention where this virtual cell is soothed all my pains, usually in a few minutes.
Thanks, I do find it helpful to focus on breathing and individual muscles, so I can imagine that does something similar for your focus. Maybe something similar would work for me, or imagining a 'safe place' and focusing on all the sensory input there.
I've found running and yoga to be helpful.. when I'm not too tired to go. Kind of a vicious cycle of being too tired vs actually going and getting the benefits of that. I haven't been in months. Yoga really does help with the tense muscles, though.
I do running and yoga too! ...when I can. Agree about the vicious cycle.
I have noticed some of what you'd called "autistic regression" as well.. I catch myself stimming more in public and covering my ears if I'm on a patio outside and a fire engine rushes past. But honestly, I've decided that if I'm more comfortable, I don't care what anyone else thinks...
I think autistic regression mostly refers to people who were verbal but lose speech for awhile (usually more than a day or two--sometimes permanently), but it applies to other autistic traits as well. I'm too lazy to look it up right now. I'd already given myself more 'permission' to stim or have downtime/alone time, etc. I used the term because besides that, there are times now when I really can't control it and I just stop being able to do things...like a couple days ago a person gave me a list of four suggestions, and I could only remember the fourth. Usually my auditory processing and working memory problems are there but I can cope (I guess I do that by visualizing each step as I go so that I can 'look' back at the pictures mentally?). Now I can't. Or a week ago, I actually
spun and flapped my hands in front of my boss
. Just once, so maybe it was not recognized as a stim, and no one else was around, but still. Every time I come up against this, I start to cry, because it's like an ability has gone totally missing. I just can't anymore.
I think the thing that has helped the most is just saying no to things I don't want to do.. especially social things
Definitely agree with this.
I'm breaking down, I think I'll give up and retire to live in my tiny little world forever wherever the cost of it. This is so exhausting I cannot go on like this, really. This is so tough I don't fit anywhere. People are very strange and I think I need so much help and have no money nor can make it cause I get fired and I worry more and more as years pass and feel ever more lonely and sad.
Please know that there
is a way, and there are people who know what it is like, at least a little bit, and we are here for you. You
can go on, but you may need to make some changes. You have the power to make those changes, even if it seems impossible right now. Is there anyone who you can ask for help?