pamelaperejil
Non-player character
(pulled from another mental health forum)
When you commit a social faux pas, sing out of tune with the choir:
Is this because you actually don't hear the tone they're singing is different than yours? Or you do hear and you just don't think it matters, for some reason? Or do you hear it and believe that their pitch is wrong, that it's a point of honor to keep singing your pitch even though you'll take heat for it?
They always tell you, just be yourself, right? That's what garners the most respect. Well, this is me being myself and it certainly hasn't garnered respect, though I don't see what's absolutely wrong with it.
I think frequently I hear the pitch is different and I convince myself that it doesn't matter. That it's simply not important for us all to be on the same pitch. (Why is it important for us all to be on the same pitch???)
Other times, I fail to even note there's a difference.
Other times I note the difference and keep singing anyway because I believe it's right and it matters. Even though I know I'll take heat for it. Sometimes I'm just right.
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Do you try to change in order to fit in better or conform to social expectations? If yes, then do you feel like you're betraying yourself or others by being insincere? Do you try to change your thoughts/emotions or just your presentation of them? If no, then is NOT modifying your behavior worth the social price? I'm struggling with this.
To me, there's something of great value in being that blunt and unfiltered that would be lost if I tried to clean up my presentation. And I'm not sure it's worth the social points I would gain. I don't trust people who play the social game. I also wonder if going a little rogue serves as an important litmus test. A "do you really like me for me" kind of thing. I like idiosyncratic people, and I wouldn't really be comfortable for long amongst people who didn't. So while you're judging me for my gracelessness, I'm judging you for your intolerance. Maybe going all aspie on you is the easiest way to test whether or not we're compatible. Besides, I don't need that may friends, really. I'm okay being an outlier instead of a standard deviation. So...I don't know.
What do you think?
When you commit a social faux pas, sing out of tune with the choir:
Is this because you actually don't hear the tone they're singing is different than yours? Or you do hear and you just don't think it matters, for some reason? Or do you hear it and believe that their pitch is wrong, that it's a point of honor to keep singing your pitch even though you'll take heat for it?
They always tell you, just be yourself, right? That's what garners the most respect. Well, this is me being myself and it certainly hasn't garnered respect, though I don't see what's absolutely wrong with it.
I think frequently I hear the pitch is different and I convince myself that it doesn't matter. That it's simply not important for us all to be on the same pitch. (Why is it important for us all to be on the same pitch???)
Other times, I fail to even note there's a difference.
Other times I note the difference and keep singing anyway because I believe it's right and it matters. Even though I know I'll take heat for it. Sometimes I'm just right.
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Do you try to change in order to fit in better or conform to social expectations? If yes, then do you feel like you're betraying yourself or others by being insincere? Do you try to change your thoughts/emotions or just your presentation of them? If no, then is NOT modifying your behavior worth the social price? I'm struggling with this.
To me, there's something of great value in being that blunt and unfiltered that would be lost if I tried to clean up my presentation. And I'm not sure it's worth the social points I would gain. I don't trust people who play the social game. I also wonder if going a little rogue serves as an important litmus test. A "do you really like me for me" kind of thing. I like idiosyncratic people, and I wouldn't really be comfortable for long amongst people who didn't. So while you're judging me for my gracelessness, I'm judging you for your intolerance. Maybe going all aspie on you is the easiest way to test whether or not we're compatible. Besides, I don't need that may friends, really. I'm okay being an outlier instead of a standard deviation. So...I don't know.
What do you think?