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More Friends Who Are Male Rather Than Female?

Emor

Emor

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I've always had more male friends than female friends I think.
I only really have one female friend which I actually find interesting.
Don't get me wrong, guys can be boring too. I think they're lower maintenance though.
I probably do have more female friends by the conventional definition of friends(which is basically someone you talk to frequently[i.e once every three days]), but in terms of people I actually enjoy talking to and genuinely want to spend time with(okay, I'm still wondering if I do want to spend time with people, sometimes I think I feel like I do... IDK when... LOL...) them.
BTW, throw all the labels you want at me. I'm not bothered. LOL.
EMZ=]
 
I've always found males easier to deal with. Girls seems to be very high maintenance and I can't deal with their demands. They want more from you socially and I can't be bothered sometimes! Guys are just...more laid back.
 
I'm lucky in that my friends are pretty understanding and don't get very upset when I tell them that I just want to be left alone for a while. Most females, imo, would take it too personally.
It's actually kind of cool, I never have to meet up with them outside of school(which I despise doing), I never have to sit with them at lunch(we do sometimes though) and I don't have to talk to them constantly. But I can hang out with them anytime at school ^_^.
Basically if you can't stick to those rules with me at school, I'm not going to be your friend, LOL xD. So I suppose not that cool. But yeah xD.
Though, then again, I never really talk to those people about anything serious and it's not like we're best friends. Though I have friends who are guys(they're also autistic but like that matters... LOL) who I know I can go to for advice and talk to them about anything, but I also know I can not talk to them for days, weeks, months and still be able to do that.
IMO, you just don't get that with females.
EMZ=]
 
That's very true. Males are a lot better. I think as we get older females will be more understanding. Maybe.
 
Nah... males are incredibly flawed too...
They just happen to not care as much about their friends as females do. Only in the twisted world of a female Aspie is that considered a good thing. LOL.
J/k. But not jk.
Basically.
I don't want anyone to take offence, but the truth stands.
EMZ=]
 
I have more male friends. They're more real. I don't know exactly how to describe it. It seems like females always have some **** lurking behind that they actually do and say and I can't be bothered to deal with that, so I stick to guys. I do have a couple of female friends who share my views about girls in gen.
 
IDK if my female friends are less dramatic or anything.
They're probably more dramatic. Both online and offline.
Idk xD.
EMZ=]
 
Up until I was 20 most of my friends were male. Then, for some reason, I started making a lot of female friends.
 
I know this is Girls (sorry!) but I think this can work in both ways. I was always befriended more by girls than by boys.
 
Michael H said:
I know this is Girls (sorry!) but I think this can work in both ways. I was always befriended more by girls than by boys.
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Same, more girls. Albeit online, they were still friends... Well, I knew them all in real life and saw them everyday, I just didn't talk to them before I was hiding behind my PC. :)
 
I was reading the book, 'Aspergers Syndrome and Girls' and Tony Antwood said Aspie guys often seek female friends because of them being more accepting of idiosyncrasies as such...
I have a friend I know online who's male and most of his friends are females.
I just never got along with other girls. It says in that book though that Aspie girls also find it easier to socialise with girls and it goes undetected, etc. 'cause they usually find themselves in a social network as such, etc.
So IDK.
Guys have just been easier for me. Both offline and online. I have a few friends online who are girls and I get on them well, but I do most of the talking, and I think they don't really understand what I'm talking about. With male friends I talk to them about technology and stuff.
Seriously though, I probably have around 20 male friends online(friends constitutes as like, talk to them at least once a month or more) and around 4 female(not counting the ones I don't talk to anymore).
I have like 140 contacts on MSN total. Around 10 of them are females.
EMZ=]
 
Physically male here :). But mentally, I'm definitely off both categories, or I simply find myself a highly ideal male with a great sense of contraction/singularity, but also with a natural sense of female receptivity. The former is more dominant though, the latter being a 'bonus', as though Existence has given me a deep-lying archetypal female to look within myself, in case I am to spend my life alone forever.

Well, I haven't had many friends from both sexes, but I find both boring, unless they are highly authentic, solitary, and independent beyond social conventions, in which case a unique, rare female can be a lot more interesting to be with. I still expect a kind of mirror-image at play here.

But, I can say that males are generally easier to deal with, since they are more rational (merely so) and leave my soul secure in solitude (despite their bullying even), no matter how mediocre. Girls can be socially very tiring for an Aspie like me (and simply because I have more original, solitary goals in this creative existence of mine), with all their self-preserved weaknesses, spoiliness, demands, and inability to philosophize uniquely---and hence their inadequacy to produce pure self-enriching delight and their inability to embrace certain ravishing eccentricities, without which life is just a predictable 'bunch of Wednesdays', which is worse than death/non-existence.

I largely agree with Schopenhauer on the typical woman (note: I still hope someone from the opposite sex can prove him 'wrong' at this point):

http://www.heretical.com/miscella/onwomen.html

But an actual, existent anti-thesis to that sentimented description is very much longed for at the verge of chaos. I'd be quenched to see a singular, self-transcendent female.
 
I've never had female friends, the few friends I've had have ALWAYS been boys-- even in pre school. I think it sort of makes sense... I think an aspie female is probably more like an NT boy than an NT girl, in terms of personality.

I am moving into an all female residence next year. God help me. Thank goodness the school gave me a single room and my own bathroom.
 
I do find it easier hanging out with guys than women. I guess because I'm more into videogames and scifi it's easier to relate. NT girls were usually the cause of the majority of the bullying I went through at school and college. I have met a lot of females online who have made it easier to understand and not be so scared of other females.
 
Out of my 6 official friends one is a girl. I have always much prefered male company to female, I like the way boys interact I don't know why but it appeals to me more than girls. In a group of boys I'm always "one of the lads" as it were.
 
Most of my friends are male since I was in school with tons of boys and hardly a single girl in there, if there was a girl, chances are, they were already taken. :thumbsdown:

[edit] Didn't even realise that I was posting in the girls only section. :lol:
 
I haven`t have any "friends" for many many years now. Except one male friend, who is my best friend actually, but he lives about over 300km away from my hometown so we don`t meet so often. We chat through MSN tho. But anyway, I have always liked more to hang around with females than males. One reason for that must be that from primary school to middle school there was always about 17-21 girls and only few boys in my class every year. Besides, most of the boys were assholes. The girls actually defended and supported me. I was touched. Of course there were some bitches too in school at that time but all the nice girls were in my class, luckily. Today, when I´m in high school, I have socialized more with guys. Females and males around my age are pretty much the same. Most of them are boring but there is a few interesting persons as well and they treat me well.
 
I don't have any friends in real life, but all of my friends except for one online are male. Females make me nervous & are very judgmental. Males just seem easier to deal with than females, especially if you're a female yourself.
 
Most of my friends are females, but I don't like having so many female friends. Too much drama and socializing and uninteresting conversations, etc. I really want more guy friends, but I feel ignored by both genders for some reason. :unsure:
 
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