muddled
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Yep, I've just done the most terrifying thing ever - left my job I've been working on for 6 years, and I have no idea what to do now other than to totally freak out about it.
For the past 10 months I've been working as a newly qualified medical doctor in the UK; before that I studied medicine for 5 years. Before that I worked in publishing, for the NHS, and for various other companies. Before that I studied biology and worked in research.
I've lived a fairly troublesome life so far. I'm also Bipolar, which is a surprisingly rough illness. I've been admitted to psychiatric hospitals 3 times, attempted suicide 12 times, been resuscitated (like on ER) 7 times, I've been on psychiatric medication for most of my adult life. I've been sexually assaulted. I've been hit, kicked, spat on many times. I've been disowned (and "re-owned") by my family. I've spent more of my life unloved than loved. However, after all this, I came to the conclusion a few years ago (having spent the last few months in intensive care following another suicide attempt) that the major thing lacking in my life was happiness; and ever since then I have made it my life's mission to find it. I completed my medical degree, to make my parents proud, and found myself a very nice and understanding man who I'm now engaged to.
The issue is that my job as a doctor was making me profoundly miserable; I continued at it to keep my family happy (they are sadly proud) and to pay the bills, all the time forgetting the promise that I made to myself to improve my quality of life. I've been having real difficulties with social interaction at work - something I've always struggled with but has never been an issue of great emphasis. However as a Doctor, there is a great emphasis - on my ability to communicate to patients and staff with ease, to alleviate stress and anguish with words and expressions. I make very little eye contact, and when I do it is brief and as if I'm staring a foot in front of the person; I lecture rather than talk; my form of speech is eccentric and unwieldy; I'm incapable of small talk; and my face is usually a blank canvas. All in all, I'm unsuitable. The management have placed increasing demands on me to rectify this, which has had no effect. And so my career progression has been halted while "supporting measures" are put in place (no one knows what these may be). It is only over the past week weeks that I discussed my problems with my Psychiatrist who feels I am certainly on the autistic spectrum, probably Aspergers; and have referred me to a Psychologist for full diagnosis.
Yesterday, I was taking blood from an elderly lady who has lost the ability to talk due to a stroke. She can still think fine, but can't socially interact. We both understood each other's predicament. She had this photo album - a beautiful collection of the most fantastic images spanning her life in a colourful montage of wonderful places, smiling people, and overwhelming happiness. I wondered what my album would look like. Would it have many happy photos? Would it all be places, and no people? Would it be blank? I realised that life is too short for dwelling in a miserable present; that I need to change my life in a way that makes me happy, even if that way seems worrying or untidy.
And so, today, I finished up my tasks and discharged the lady with the album. Then I walked out. Officially I'm on sick leave, while I figure things out. Though I know I won't be going back there.
Yet another drama I could do without! Let's hope I can find a suitable job asap before I go bonkers staying in the house.
For the past 10 months I've been working as a newly qualified medical doctor in the UK; before that I studied medicine for 5 years. Before that I worked in publishing, for the NHS, and for various other companies. Before that I studied biology and worked in research.
I've lived a fairly troublesome life so far. I'm also Bipolar, which is a surprisingly rough illness. I've been admitted to psychiatric hospitals 3 times, attempted suicide 12 times, been resuscitated (like on ER) 7 times, I've been on psychiatric medication for most of my adult life. I've been sexually assaulted. I've been hit, kicked, spat on many times. I've been disowned (and "re-owned") by my family. I've spent more of my life unloved than loved. However, after all this, I came to the conclusion a few years ago (having spent the last few months in intensive care following another suicide attempt) that the major thing lacking in my life was happiness; and ever since then I have made it my life's mission to find it. I completed my medical degree, to make my parents proud, and found myself a very nice and understanding man who I'm now engaged to.
The issue is that my job as a doctor was making me profoundly miserable; I continued at it to keep my family happy (they are sadly proud) and to pay the bills, all the time forgetting the promise that I made to myself to improve my quality of life. I've been having real difficulties with social interaction at work - something I've always struggled with but has never been an issue of great emphasis. However as a Doctor, there is a great emphasis - on my ability to communicate to patients and staff with ease, to alleviate stress and anguish with words and expressions. I make very little eye contact, and when I do it is brief and as if I'm staring a foot in front of the person; I lecture rather than talk; my form of speech is eccentric and unwieldy; I'm incapable of small talk; and my face is usually a blank canvas. All in all, I'm unsuitable. The management have placed increasing demands on me to rectify this, which has had no effect. And so my career progression has been halted while "supporting measures" are put in place (no one knows what these may be). It is only over the past week weeks that I discussed my problems with my Psychiatrist who feels I am certainly on the autistic spectrum, probably Aspergers; and have referred me to a Psychologist for full diagnosis.
Yesterday, I was taking blood from an elderly lady who has lost the ability to talk due to a stroke. She can still think fine, but can't socially interact. We both understood each other's predicament. She had this photo album - a beautiful collection of the most fantastic images spanning her life in a colourful montage of wonderful places, smiling people, and overwhelming happiness. I wondered what my album would look like. Would it have many happy photos? Would it all be places, and no people? Would it be blank? I realised that life is too short for dwelling in a miserable present; that I need to change my life in a way that makes me happy, even if that way seems worrying or untidy.
And so, today, I finished up my tasks and discharged the lady with the album. Then I walked out. Officially I'm on sick leave, while I figure things out. Though I know I won't be going back there.
Yet another drama I could do without! Let's hope I can find a suitable job asap before I go bonkers staying in the house.