Trippy_Wonka
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I was in the car with my girl and we were about to go in. She told me she was feeling a little irritable, not quite awake - we had just gotten back from an errand. She was saying she probably just wanted to watch a show for a bit before starting homework. I ask her what she wanted to watch and then immediately think “oh wait too vague she’s not gonna have an answer” so when she says I don’t know like I anticipated I start saying “sports, documentary, or fictional?” Like I was gonna help her narrow it down (weird categories that are indicative that I already wasn’t really thinking about her anymore)
She wasn’t done talking though, she was about to say “let’s just go in and” but of course I was way louder so I shouted her down (accident but doesn’t really matter in practice)
She’s pretty upset because we’ve been having problems with communication.
I always have trouble with interrupting people and I’m trying to learn not to. I’m actually getting way better I’m often active listening, especially with my girl
The trouble is you only have to interrupt someone once. So she’s like “every couple days I have to remind you not to interrupt me” but I’m thinking “yeah but I got for 48 hours at a time without interrupting you”
I see it as a victory but she doesn’t, and it makes me feel like I haven’t made much progress at all. It’s difficult for me to maintain my social confidence, and when one thing is pointed out as “wrong” I tend to lose my ability to be social at all
I don’t know if I have a question I just needed to vent about it to someone I think gets it because I’m having trouble articulating it to her. Also, like, she doesn’t wanna talk right now and I understand that
She wasn’t done talking though, she was about to say “let’s just go in and” but of course I was way louder so I shouted her down (accident but doesn’t really matter in practice)
She’s pretty upset because we’ve been having problems with communication.
I always have trouble with interrupting people and I’m trying to learn not to. I’m actually getting way better I’m often active listening, especially with my girl
The trouble is you only have to interrupt someone once. So she’s like “every couple days I have to remind you not to interrupt me” but I’m thinking “yeah but I got for 48 hours at a time without interrupting you”
I see it as a victory but she doesn’t, and it makes me feel like I haven’t made much progress at all. It’s difficult for me to maintain my social confidence, and when one thing is pointed out as “wrong” I tend to lose my ability to be social at all
I don’t know if I have a question I just needed to vent about it to someone I think gets it because I’m having trouble articulating it to her. Also, like, she doesn’t wanna talk right now and I understand that