Thanks holly and soup for your comments. They are reassuring.
I have found myself targeted in life and often I don't know why. Usually the S*&% hits the fan and there is a blow up and everything ends bad. In an online game I was playing I was pretty much made to be a target of their A holeness and it took me years to get over that because they were pretty nasty to me. Long painful story. And those feelings sometimes translate to other online things like facebook, forums etc.
When you get kicked around by the world it can be hard to find strength to be confident and keep up the mask. I have a job interview for a job I really want on friday and so far I've gotten through the stupid personality test and the phone interview. So hopefully it will work out. I will still have to contend with the crippling anxiety that has been coming out in interviews lately as nervousness. Usually I'm cool as a cucumber in high pressure situations but since I left my last job (just to give you background I was about ready to kill myself and I had a major break down because of this job. Or more to the point one particular manager) I haven't been like that. I've been so wound up from it I haven't gotten to a good place. And its been seven months. I'm just hoping the stars are aligned lol.
I have been kicked around my whole /FN life. First 24 years of being raised by wolves. One with alcoholism and one with Narcissism. I was programmed to sit on the sofa and collect government checks. Why - that is what my parents wanted. They wanted me to cling to their dysfuntion and need them and never grow up...OOOOpppppssss I fooled them,,,got my ass in therapy and said "You parents are crazy",,, I have been clawing my way to some kind of a life ever since. I married an AS and had two AS children. The ony good difference in this story is that I loved my children and fought for them every day. I protected them from the alcoholism and Narcissism and moved them far away from my Parents who were disordered and crazy..... Nobody is going to keep me down. Abuse me all you want, - I'm used to it, bring it on - Noone is keeping me down,,,,I'm a fighter and I fight for the abused and I fight for my self. Nothing is easy, there will be daily crap and there ya go,,,I got my gloves on.....
I have been trying to push myself socially but it hasn't been working so well. I find I often get scared of going to like a club or something and the fear is getting really bad I find reasons not to go out to something usually. I know I have to push past it but I just find it harder to do so lately. I think I've been isolated too long.
Isolation is not good. God said 'it is not good for man to be alone.' I have two adult children with high anxiety in social situations. My advice - when you go (make yourself go) know that Everyone is equal,,,, know that we are all anxious,,, know that we are all looking for a friend, a chat, A good conversation opener is to say "I like your _____", maybe earings, maybe shoes, mabye shirt ---- then, the persoan says thanks, then maybe says "I bought them at Khols",,,then you say,,, I like Kohls and say why. Keep the thread going. One thing I think the AS doesn't do it keep the conversation going... My AS son thinks he can read the others persons mind - big mistake- noone can read your mind.... Everyone is just trying to connect. Don't over think things... Life is a journey and the best way to keep on trucking is by TALKING.
Thank you all for your kind words
and Donein I have a very low expectation of the world so I usually expect I will put my foot in it royally at some point and that will be the end, just another tattered experience because I'm not worthy. I expect to get told to pack my bags and take a hike so it can be hard when you are confronted with a situation where you won't be. I have what some people would call extreme views and not everyone likes a view that isn't a pretty rainbow.