I don’t know how to put this because it’s so very painful but I have 2 daughters 11 and 13 and basically they can’t stand me. I am their mum and they really really just do not like me.
I know how lovely you people are and you will say all kinds of things because you don’t believe it’s true and you want to be kind but I really really mean it. They don’t. I do believe that they love me but truly they do not like me. I annoy them and they cannot bear to be in my company.
They are very honest. I’m not allowed to talk. I try not to as awful as that is but it’s so unfair and unnatural. We are taught to just be ourselves and if people don’t like us for who we are then that’s their loss etc etc but these are my girls. Why can’t they like me for who I am?
Surely I shouldn’t have to change myself for anyone. I have had to learn to be someone that I’m not just to get through a day without any problems. I cry just about every single day because they are so awful to me. They really don’t like me. They pick on me. They are very open about it. It’s nothing new. Tonight I heard her dad saying to my youngest ‘I know she’s annoying but you just have to be nice’ . She couldn’t even sit through a tv show with me. It’s horrendous and it’s breaking my heart.
It’s a very open problem in our little family unit but I’m the one that’s the ‘problem’. I can’t change who I am. I’ve told them that. I’m not being stubborn or unreasonable but I just am who I am. I wish I weren’t but I am. I am kind. I am loving. And I bloody love them, they know that but what else can I do? I can’t be anyone other that who I am and it’s hard enough trying to love and accept yourself but when your own kids can’t bear you it’s devastating.
I do not know what on earth im meant to do. I am a very kind and loving person and I don’t deserve this but they are my kids and I’d do anything to have the relationship with them that I long for.
Bottom line is, even at their young ages they’ve decided they cannot be around me for long and when we are together it doesn’t end well. I love them so very much but it just upsets everyone despite all my best intentions and effort and I think they would be happier without me.
Look, I don’t know, I know this is very specific but if anyone can help I would be so grateful. Please don’t say it’s their ages or any of the cliches. It really isn’t. I’m not exaggerating, they really find me so annoying that they can’t be around me. I get asked to not go on day trips, shopping etc because they don’t want me. It’s very open. It’s very hurtful and it’s very honest.
I know no one can help me in terms of what to do because there really isn’t anything. I have to lump it but I wondered if anyone could say they understand maybe? It’s bloody awful. My heart has been breaking for such a long time but they’re my kids. I love them so I have to just suck it up and at the same time feel so guilty for not being the mum they want me to be. It’s horrible. Xx
I know how lovely you people are and you will say all kinds of things because you don’t believe it’s true and you want to be kind but I really really mean it. They don’t. I do believe that they love me but truly they do not like me. I annoy them and they cannot bear to be in my company.
They are very honest. I’m not allowed to talk. I try not to as awful as that is but it’s so unfair and unnatural. We are taught to just be ourselves and if people don’t like us for who we are then that’s their loss etc etc but these are my girls. Why can’t they like me for who I am?
Surely I shouldn’t have to change myself for anyone. I have had to learn to be someone that I’m not just to get through a day without any problems. I cry just about every single day because they are so awful to me. They really don’t like me. They pick on me. They are very open about it. It’s nothing new. Tonight I heard her dad saying to my youngest ‘I know she’s annoying but you just have to be nice’ . She couldn’t even sit through a tv show with me. It’s horrendous and it’s breaking my heart.
It’s a very open problem in our little family unit but I’m the one that’s the ‘problem’. I can’t change who I am. I’ve told them that. I’m not being stubborn or unreasonable but I just am who I am. I wish I weren’t but I am. I am kind. I am loving. And I bloody love them, they know that but what else can I do? I can’t be anyone other that who I am and it’s hard enough trying to love and accept yourself but when your own kids can’t bear you it’s devastating.
I do not know what on earth im meant to do. I am a very kind and loving person and I don’t deserve this but they are my kids and I’d do anything to have the relationship with them that I long for.
Bottom line is, even at their young ages they’ve decided they cannot be around me for long and when we are together it doesn’t end well. I love them so very much but it just upsets everyone despite all my best intentions and effort and I think they would be happier without me.
Look, I don’t know, I know this is very specific but if anyone can help I would be so grateful. Please don’t say it’s their ages or any of the cliches. It really isn’t. I’m not exaggerating, they really find me so annoying that they can’t be around me. I get asked to not go on day trips, shopping etc because they don’t want me. It’s very open. It’s very hurtful and it’s very honest.
I know no one can help me in terms of what to do because there really isn’t anything. I have to lump it but I wondered if anyone could say they understand maybe? It’s bloody awful. My heart has been breaking for such a long time but they’re my kids. I love them so I have to just suck it up and at the same time feel so guilty for not being the mum they want me to be. It’s horrible. Xx