My faith, being one of Jehovah's Witnesses, has helped me to understand the art of making friends. I have found that those I gravitate to more, are the ones, who are easier to keep up a friendship! I guess this seems pretty obvious, but actually, it has taken me some time to appreciate it and a lot of hurt feelings.
I have two friends that I call: true friends ( for me that is pretty amazing lol). One is always online and we have met, but get on better chatting online and have known each other for 4 years. In fact, she taught me the art of what friendship is.
My other true friend, is face to face and I call her that, because despite how annoying she can be, she always looks out for me and she is the only one, I can go up and hug! She taught me to separate the personality from the person. She really is a pain, but I cannot help but love her very much.
There are friends, who care and get in touch with me, unprompted and I feel comfortable chatting with them and even within friends, there are lesser friends, who I get on with, but not completely myself.
I read a quote not long ago and found it brilliant: just get a person to talk about themselves and they will listen to their heart's content!
It is difficult striking up a friendship with ones that just answer in: yes or no and well, I particularly don't wish to have them as friends lol
I get on best with ones who are not afraid to be themselves but also who can laugh and be silly. One friend, who is going to clean our van for us, wrote in the dust: soon I will be clean and I put: YEAH with a smilie face.
I have also learned that despite always hating being ignored of disliked, that actually, there are some I dislike and that helps to defuse the situation for me.
There is this one woman who does not like me very much ( I can read it - learned to read people very well), but I forced myself to say hi in a bright voice and smiling and she did smile back and say hello and use my name, but in a very polite way and then, hugged my good friend. I have contemplated that she is actually jealous of me and honestly would love to ask her why lol but that is the only conclusion I come to, on how she looks at me! Needless to say, I feel very uncomfortable in her company and feel that my mask is on very much with her.
I will never be one to have tons of friends, but I am ok with that: I prefer one or two who make me laugh and feel comfortable, then tons of make me put on my mask!