Robby
Well-Known Member
I don't for the life of me understand why everyone assumes and by everyone I mean NT's, that once you become 18, you're somehow not autistic any more. Everyone talks about autism all the time as it relates to kids. Well, autism doesn't magically disappear when you become an adult. And if you were only diagnosed in the last year or so like me, you've wasted about 10-15 years of your adult life not working because of symptoms that go along with autism, which for me were depression, anxiety, crippling self-doubt, and ptsd from bullying. When I was in school in the 1990s nobody talked about autism at all. Now, they talk about it a lot but only concerning kids. Wtf?? Autism is autism, I'm 33 and have it, I've probably had it my whole life. It was just not caught. Because this is the case with many adults with autism, (I have a fairly mild case), many of us have absolutely NO idea how to function as an adult and do things like go to work, maintain our lives, finances, etc. This is a huge problem. For me, therapy helps but what I find myself wanting and wishing I had earlier was better life skills training. I tend to do terrible when I have no structure. I just withdraw and retreat into my own world, and with no accountability, I just live out my days in seclusion. My family is supportive of me, but they have no idea about autism and just assume that since I am grown, I'm lazy or something. People just don't get it. Autism isn't something you can turn on or off it has varying symptoms. My symptoms vary between severe anxiety and depression, self-doubt, and rebellion. And I am frustrated a lot about my position in life. I know I have a lot of skills to offer, but I have no idea about how to put them to use. And the jobs I see out there either require ridiculous amounts of education and experience, which I do not have, or just wouldn't suit my personality. Add being gay on top of all that, and it means I go through a ton of self doubt all the time. I wish I had a life coach or something to help me set goals for myself and a plan, and help hold me accountable until I can start reaching my goals, and also teach me how to function in a NT world. This would help a lot. But there is no such thing. So I just keep feeling lost.