Sami Eder
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Not quite sure what to call this, but please help.
My husband was diagnosed with aspergers when he was very young. I've known him since we were very young. I think he had counseling at a young age, but after middle school it stopped. Once he graduated he joined the Army, treetop weeks after he signed his rangers contract he had an accident and hurt his back. They soon after discharged him and stripped him of everything. After he came back he started using drugs...some worse than others. Through this time he and I circled rather in the lake of love. One of us never ready for a true commitment but both of us knowing we ultimately wanted to be with one another. He's been in and out of half way house and detention centers and prison. And through it we wrote to each other. after this last time we finally decided we were going to do it, get married. Right before that I found out I was having my first cold, my son Tristan. He is now almost a year... In march. Since this all happened my husband, Gary has made some major accomplishments. And I am so proud. He's gotten a more than full time job. Working sometimes almost sixty hours a week. He also decided to go to school for emergency medical technician. That is treetop nights a week from 6-9 pm. He also took on the bills himself. I am primarily a stay at home mom. I only work eight hours a week.
Now the part I need help with.
Lately Gary has been really distant. Doesn't come home right after work like he used to. He's constantly on his phone. He won't talk to me and last time I asked him what was bothering him, he said "everything is on his shoulders". After thinking on that I took responsibility over the bills. A few days after that he was late to come home, so i called him., he was very mean and rude, even telling me to shut up. I could hear people in the backround... It really hurry me, although i haven't told him that. Then when he came home late a few nights app I asked him where he was and he got defensive and irritated. I told him I was worried about him. Not trying to keep tabs on him or something like that. I told him I'm here to help him, we're partners. Since then he's continued to come home late... His daughter is wondering where he is... I think she misses him. I don't think he's even seen Tristan in a few days. He's home after he goes to sleep, and leaves before he wakes.
I'm not sure what he's going through, but I told him the other night I'm here for him, and even have thought to write him a letter... Hoping it wouldn't be so intrusive and sound so demanding. I'm just not sure.
On top of all this I'm a very insecure person. Always afraid there's some one better than me he will find and take all I love. And then to top it off I called his adopted sister and she told me he's talking to other girls and other things he's thinking of, that I don't dare say. It's treating me up inside. But I love him, always have and always will.
My husband was diagnosed with aspergers when he was very young. I've known him since we were very young. I think he had counseling at a young age, but after middle school it stopped. Once he graduated he joined the Army, treetop weeks after he signed his rangers contract he had an accident and hurt his back. They soon after discharged him and stripped him of everything. After he came back he started using drugs...some worse than others. Through this time he and I circled rather in the lake of love. One of us never ready for a true commitment but both of us knowing we ultimately wanted to be with one another. He's been in and out of half way house and detention centers and prison. And through it we wrote to each other. after this last time we finally decided we were going to do it, get married. Right before that I found out I was having my first cold, my son Tristan. He is now almost a year... In march. Since this all happened my husband, Gary has made some major accomplishments. And I am so proud. He's gotten a more than full time job. Working sometimes almost sixty hours a week. He also decided to go to school for emergency medical technician. That is treetop nights a week from 6-9 pm. He also took on the bills himself. I am primarily a stay at home mom. I only work eight hours a week.
Now the part I need help with.
Lately Gary has been really distant. Doesn't come home right after work like he used to. He's constantly on his phone. He won't talk to me and last time I asked him what was bothering him, he said "everything is on his shoulders". After thinking on that I took responsibility over the bills. A few days after that he was late to come home, so i called him., he was very mean and rude, even telling me to shut up. I could hear people in the backround... It really hurry me, although i haven't told him that. Then when he came home late a few nights app I asked him where he was and he got defensive and irritated. I told him I was worried about him. Not trying to keep tabs on him or something like that. I told him I'm here to help him, we're partners. Since then he's continued to come home late... His daughter is wondering where he is... I think she misses him. I don't think he's even seen Tristan in a few days. He's home after he goes to sleep, and leaves before he wakes.
I'm not sure what he's going through, but I told him the other night I'm here for him, and even have thought to write him a letter... Hoping it wouldn't be so intrusive and sound so demanding. I'm just not sure.
On top of all this I'm a very insecure person. Always afraid there's some one better than me he will find and take all I love. And then to top it off I called his adopted sister and she told me he's talking to other girls and other things he's thinking of, that I don't dare say. It's treating me up inside. But I love him, always have and always will.
Gary stayed home this morning until he absolutely had to leave. Had coffee and watched a few videos on YouTube. He was here, so to speak. And it almost brought me to tears. He went and woke our son up early to see him to. And he and I just had general conversation. 
