Any advise would be great please.
For starters, here are factors that must be considered:
1: Your city and state
2: Your appearance (yes, it's true)
3: Your dress habits
4: Your hygiene (surprisingly people don't get this)
5: Your personality type
6: Your humor style
7: Your religious beliefs
8: Your political beliefs
9: Your car and it's condition
10: How you position your body and face (huge discussion when ready)
11: What types of physical features do you look for
12: What kind of personality/behavior you look for
13: How mature are you? (don't answer that, most people don't even get close)
14: Your interests
15: Your income
16: Your living situation
Instead of telling you all kinds of "yeah, I'm the same way" or "it's hard for all of us" or any other thing like that, you will find that I'll help you get down to the bare bones.
Yes, this is a question of variables and factors.
No, it is not purely math and science but you have to respect that there are correlations often unobserved.
If you see some of my other posts you may see that I point out how geographica/religious cultures can produce specific standards of attraction per region that must be observed.
For instance: I live in Alabama; I live close to the University of Alabama actually. The most popular American concept is entertainment. The most popular American entertainment is sports. The most popular sport is Football. Football has regional sections and the most popularly active of them is the SEC region. In the SEC the most championships won (by staggering amounts) is the ... can you guess it?... University of Alabama. It is said by all who visit that the in-state rivalry between Alabama and it's sister team Auburn is by far the most severe football rivalry in the world and it comes with little exaggeration.
Q.E.D. Alabama football is one of the most influential variables to consider when living in Alabama.
Now that I have you thinking in these terms, know that the people in Alabama are football fanatics to the extreme. The two most popular vehicle colors sold in Alabama are crimson and silver and you will see dealerships carry and display almost nothing but crimson/silver cars.
In no attempt to make myself well-liked with my statements I can assure you that people in Alabama
breed for football. Psychology and Sociology has proven that females look for "mates" based on genetic potential (it's subconscious so no one get offended) and each female will have their own standard for what makes an attractive male. So when you are in regions of Alabama you will see a steep correlation with football and sex (despite religious claims of celibacy) with the football players at the top of the food chain along with the cheerleaders. A vast majority of the male, middle age population in the south can be described as short, stout men with bulky centers and shaved heads sporting an ovular shape. They are often shorter than others with stocky builds plus age fat. Gut fat is the most prominent feature shared by southerners actually. They will also have high blood pressure problems and passive aggressive personalities with more than spoiled tendencies. This is because most males do steroids in high school to get built which produce a scientifically specific middle age look. You will notice that these men are almost always married to women with fake blonde hair (or have had fake blonde before) or the typical straightened brown hair with blond highlights and too much eye makeup which becomes more popular towards their 30s-40s and veers more toward light brown and fake red later in life. These are all statistically proven aftermaths of football worshipping lifestyles. Similar to how I can say that most people in Alabama own either a truck or SUV.
Q.E.D. If you are not a football fan (like me) you are in the wrong place.
Step outside of popular belief and realize that the things no one else has the backbone to say are often the most true. The things I listed above are variables that must be analyzed to see if you even have a decent chance of finding a girlfriend based on where you live or how you "carry yourself." I've been surprised to see guys who don't even bother to look halfway appealing and who do creepy things complain about not attracting supermodels because they have unrealistic views of what they think they are owed in life according to mass media.
For anime fans (as a bonus observation) you will notice that almost all "harem anime" feature the most typical black hair, black eye, teenage anime character which always seems to collect a following of exotic females. Remember Tenchi Muyo and Ah my Goddess and Love Hina and Sword Art Online and ...well, any other harem anime? Yeah, they have the most typical male lead with the most exotic and overly populated array of female support. In fact, most all anime with only a few exceptions tend to have a Japan exclusive cultural ideal on what women act like that doesn't even interpret well into real life. You watch anime? You are most likely going to have to re-learn how females work. Sorry but it's true.
