I'm a mom of 4 kids, and my oldest (11 yrs old) has Aspergers. It's been hard for him ever since he was born. He would get distressed and cry over lights, noises, things nobody else noticed. I hoped he would grow out of some things and he has, but every problem has been replaced with a new one.
He has violent outbreaks and roll on the floor temper tantrums that sometimes appear to be borderline panic attacks. He's put a few holes in the wall and seems to be proud of this. I am so sad that my younger children have to grow up in a house like that, and I can't protect them.
He also has giddy spells, where his eyes glass over and he just giggles. It's impossible to get through to him during these times. No doctor has been able to explain this to me. Sometimes his pupils would get so huge people would comment, what the heck is with his eyes?? We'll be at the store and he'll be clomping down the aisles on his toes, knocking into things and making noises, sometimes he drools. Then half an hr later he's back to normal. It happens at home too, anywhere really. I don't feel like this has been addressed by any of the professionals I've seen, and I feel it's important. Does anyone have any ideas? I know my son and it's definitely not an act. The way he explains it is that everything just seems really funny. It seems like there could be a key there in finding how to help him.
Lately, I've been noticing some very disturbing behaviors. He seems to be paranoid and obsessed that his 4yr old sister is doing bad things to him. For example this morning our dog (a known shoe thief) brought his shoe out through the doggy door to chew on. I went and got it, and my son insisted that his sister took it out there so he'd be late for school. I tried to calm him down but he just kept getting more and more worked up until I had to put him in a time out. Then he goes to school and says his sister hid his shoe and he got in trouble for it.
I don't believe he tries to manipulate, I think he does see things in a very different way. But that means he never believes he does wrong, everything is everyone else's fault, and consequences only serve to make him feel sorry for himself. And there's this new obsession with his sister. It's VERY difficult to deal with as a parent. I just don't know what to do.
He's started taking Risperidone, which seems to have minimized the aggression and giddiness, but also minimized his personality. It breaks my heart that it's getting harder and harder to connect with my son, who regardless of all the troubles I love from the bottom of my heart. I'll never give up on him and I want to believe that someday he'll have a happy, fulfilling life. I'm overwhelmed and sad... just thought someone here might have helpful tips or even just a kind word, I need it today.
Anyway thanks for reading... If anyone has tips on dealing with sibling issues or anything else I'd love to hear it!
He has violent outbreaks and roll on the floor temper tantrums that sometimes appear to be borderline panic attacks. He's put a few holes in the wall and seems to be proud of this. I am so sad that my younger children have to grow up in a house like that, and I can't protect them.
He also has giddy spells, where his eyes glass over and he just giggles. It's impossible to get through to him during these times. No doctor has been able to explain this to me. Sometimes his pupils would get so huge people would comment, what the heck is with his eyes?? We'll be at the store and he'll be clomping down the aisles on his toes, knocking into things and making noises, sometimes he drools. Then half an hr later he's back to normal. It happens at home too, anywhere really. I don't feel like this has been addressed by any of the professionals I've seen, and I feel it's important. Does anyone have any ideas? I know my son and it's definitely not an act. The way he explains it is that everything just seems really funny. It seems like there could be a key there in finding how to help him.
Lately, I've been noticing some very disturbing behaviors. He seems to be paranoid and obsessed that his 4yr old sister is doing bad things to him. For example this morning our dog (a known shoe thief) brought his shoe out through the doggy door to chew on. I went and got it, and my son insisted that his sister took it out there so he'd be late for school. I tried to calm him down but he just kept getting more and more worked up until I had to put him in a time out. Then he goes to school and says his sister hid his shoe and he got in trouble for it.
I don't believe he tries to manipulate, I think he does see things in a very different way. But that means he never believes he does wrong, everything is everyone else's fault, and consequences only serve to make him feel sorry for himself. And there's this new obsession with his sister. It's VERY difficult to deal with as a parent. I just don't know what to do.
He's started taking Risperidone, which seems to have minimized the aggression and giddiness, but also minimized his personality. It breaks my heart that it's getting harder and harder to connect with my son, who regardless of all the troubles I love from the bottom of my heart. I'll never give up on him and I want to believe that someday he'll have a happy, fulfilling life. I'm overwhelmed and sad... just thought someone here might have helpful tips or even just a kind word, I need it today.
Anyway thanks for reading... If anyone has tips on dealing with sibling issues or anything else I'd love to hear it!