I was diagnosed with mild aspergers in my teens. I am now 23 and have struggled with dating, relationships with women my whole life as a result of simply not meeting women in daily life. I want to meet people and make more friends and all that, but I am somewhat shy and reserved in social interactions. I need to get comfortable with new people before really opening up, ypu know?
I never saw aspergers as a factor, I have always been kind of quite and awkward but I figured that came from social isolation resulting from other causes.
Recently I have been meeting people through online dating apps and I'm wondering how aspergers may be affecting my interaction with these women. Also, given that I have only been dating a few months, there will be a learning curve.
Meeting them is a mixed bag. Sometimes it goes great, we have lots to talk about and I'm not nervous, overthinking things, etc.
Other times the situation feels awkward, they comment on my not being talkative, and I just don't know what to do with myself.
About me not being talkative, I just don't understand that. Should we really be chatting constantly while together? What would we talk about?
True, much of this depends on the other preson's personality. And some of the dates have gone great. One person I saw for a month actually.
No matter what, when I meet someone, I make sure to listen and respond to them, to make eye contact(never had a problem with this anyway), to reflect openness in my body language, to pay attention to their phrasing and body language, and to not bore them by talking about myself or my interests in too much detail. I give them respect and my full attention.
I'm just not sure if aspergers plays a role here, given how mild it is and the fact that some dates go really well.
I never saw aspergers as a factor, I have always been kind of quite and awkward but I figured that came from social isolation resulting from other causes.
Recently I have been meeting people through online dating apps and I'm wondering how aspergers may be affecting my interaction with these women. Also, given that I have only been dating a few months, there will be a learning curve.
Meeting them is a mixed bag. Sometimes it goes great, we have lots to talk about and I'm not nervous, overthinking things, etc.
Other times the situation feels awkward, they comment on my not being talkative, and I just don't know what to do with myself.
About me not being talkative, I just don't understand that. Should we really be chatting constantly while together? What would we talk about?
True, much of this depends on the other preson's personality. And some of the dates have gone great. One person I saw for a month actually.
No matter what, when I meet someone, I make sure to listen and respond to them, to make eye contact(never had a problem with this anyway), to reflect openness in my body language, to pay attention to their phrasing and body language, and to not bore them by talking about myself or my interests in too much detail. I give them respect and my full attention.
I'm just not sure if aspergers plays a role here, given how mild it is and the fact that some dates go really well.