AmyB8484
Well-Known Member
I'm Aspergers, and because I speak a certain way or phrase things a certain way, I've been accused of being pretentious, or trying to be condescending, or think I'm smarter than other people. The fact is, I just don't know how to speak plainly. I grew up with my nose always in books, and since I had little social interaction, I think I speak the way things are written in books. I don't want to sound that way. I would love it if I knew how to speak "normal" like other people.
I had a doctor who was writing my antidepressants and ADHD medication,and after I had told him I just wanted to be normal, he asked me to describe what "normal" is. I assumed he was probably going to use the old cliche "Normal is just a setting on your washer," which people always say with good intentions, but not understanding that what they are talking about is within a certain range, and there is a point beyond that range that you may be in, to where that doesn't help you. So I tried to find a way to word it that would make sense, wanting to avoid that response.
So I said something to the effect of, "Well, I just want the chemicals in my brain to fall within the range of what's normal for the majority of the population. I know that there are variations between individuals, but I want to at least be within a range that is functional and socially acceptable." He then told me to stop trying to impress him with how intellectual I was. I hadn't even been thinking about sounding a certain way, that was just the only way I know how to talk, would never even attempt to impress someone who was able to pass the MCAT and actually graduate med school, when I probably wouldn't even make it in pre-med.
This happens often. The only possible way I could avoid it would be to take every thought I want to express and re-word it after the fact, before speaking. People think that you are going an extra step to sound smart, but it would actually take an extra step to sound normal. And I don't even necessarily think I'm that smart, I just talk like a nerd.
Can anyone else relate to this?
I had a doctor who was writing my antidepressants and ADHD medication,and after I had told him I just wanted to be normal, he asked me to describe what "normal" is. I assumed he was probably going to use the old cliche "Normal is just a setting on your washer," which people always say with good intentions, but not understanding that what they are talking about is within a certain range, and there is a point beyond that range that you may be in, to where that doesn't help you. So I tried to find a way to word it that would make sense, wanting to avoid that response.
So I said something to the effect of, "Well, I just want the chemicals in my brain to fall within the range of what's normal for the majority of the population. I know that there are variations between individuals, but I want to at least be within a range that is functional and socially acceptable." He then told me to stop trying to impress him with how intellectual I was. I hadn't even been thinking about sounding a certain way, that was just the only way I know how to talk, would never even attempt to impress someone who was able to pass the MCAT and actually graduate med school, when I probably wouldn't even make it in pre-med.
This happens often. The only possible way I could avoid it would be to take every thought I want to express and re-word it after the fact, before speaking. People think that you are going an extra step to sound smart, but it would actually take an extra step to sound normal. And I don't even necessarily think I'm that smart, I just talk like a nerd.
Can anyone else relate to this?