hi, first let me say, I'm new here so if this is in the wrong place, I apologise.
I've been dating a guy for about 8 months (I'm not on the autistic spectrum but he is). If I'm truly honest, I've fallen for him in a big way. He told me on our second date that he is autistic. I though I understood autism, after all, two of my nephews are autistic, apparently not. About 4months ago, right around when things started getting busy for his band, he went really distant, at the time, I thought he'd gone off me (I stupidly didn't think about his autism because of how little it was visible) now I'm wondering if it was because of how busy he was. Anyway l, I've already said things that have probably upset him which is not what I want. Anyway after not seeing him since middle of June, he came over last week but he didn't seem himself which I can only think was because he was really tired and stressed. Anyway, what can I do to make things easier for him? I don't want to lose him because I've been an ignorant idiot, I don't want to change him but I feel if I can understand how he thinks and feels, what makes him tick so to speak we have a better chance of making this work. I can't say the autism doesn't scare me but I'm not about to run away because this. Any help would be great
I've been dating a guy for about 8 months (I'm not on the autistic spectrum but he is). If I'm truly honest, I've fallen for him in a big way. He told me on our second date that he is autistic. I though I understood autism, after all, two of my nephews are autistic, apparently not. About 4months ago, right around when things started getting busy for his band, he went really distant, at the time, I thought he'd gone off me (I stupidly didn't think about his autism because of how little it was visible) now I'm wondering if it was because of how busy he was. Anyway l, I've already said things that have probably upset him which is not what I want. Anyway after not seeing him since middle of June, he came over last week but he didn't seem himself which I can only think was because he was really tired and stressed. Anyway, what can I do to make things easier for him? I don't want to lose him because I've been an ignorant idiot, I don't want to change him but I feel if I can understand how he thinks and feels, what makes him tick so to speak we have a better chance of making this work. I can't say the autism doesn't scare me but I'm not about to run away because this. Any help would be great