A personal situation has been bothering me and I'm going to share it with you all. In this post, I am venting rather than looking for an answer.
I feel like race has been a personal issue for me even presently. I think it has gotten slightly better overall, but I think it can be complicated too.
There are many factors to consider.
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Very recently, I had someone I was talking to for 13 days and we were connecting real well. He initiated some texts and made a few obscure references (including CRTs are better for older video game systems) and he was impressed that I was able to relate to them naturally.
I'm definitely "in his league" at least- so to speak- in arguably all aspects of life overall. (looks, career, etc.)
2 days ago, I ran into his profile on another app and it had a different name than he told me. He was the one that also asked us to trade first names and not me.
His profile said that he was into bears.
This person is local enough and we both drive (supposedly.)
We were both okay with building something platonic in-person at a minimum (supposedly).
Neither of these profiles are verified. So, I guess it "could" be a fake person. The context and detail of unique, natural enough interactions make it likely it wasn't fake.
I am not a bear and there's no way I could naturally "become a bear" nor do I plan to. The interaction made me feel like I am not a human being. Sure, I probably don't want to be associated with such a person.
In different forms, in-person, this kind of thing has happened too. Usually not to this extreme, but yeah.
It sucks that this kind of behavior is more a norm rather than an exception.
I feel like race has been a personal issue for me even presently. I think it has gotten slightly better overall, but I think it can be complicated too.
There are many factors to consider.
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Very recently, I had someone I was talking to for 13 days and we were connecting real well. He initiated some texts and made a few obscure references (including CRTs are better for older video game systems) and he was impressed that I was able to relate to them naturally.
I'm definitely "in his league" at least- so to speak- in arguably all aspects of life overall. (looks, career, etc.)
2 days ago, I ran into his profile on another app and it had a different name than he told me. He was the one that also asked us to trade first names and not me.
His profile said that he was into bears.
This person is local enough and we both drive (supposedly.)
We were both okay with building something platonic in-person at a minimum (supposedly).
Neither of these profiles are verified. So, I guess it "could" be a fake person. The context and detail of unique, natural enough interactions make it likely it wasn't fake.
I am not a bear and there's no way I could naturally "become a bear" nor do I plan to. The interaction made me feel like I am not a human being. Sure, I probably don't want to be associated with such a person.
In different forms, in-person, this kind of thing has happened too. Usually not to this extreme, but yeah.
It sucks that this kind of behavior is more a norm rather than an exception.
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