// a rather simple approch on freeing onself of shame, social anxiety and social phobia; on freeing onself of being shamed and having to compulsively part from enjoyed activities and items connected to shaming //
// usually, perceiving the human as self we speak as 'I' being the self and as 'of myself' viewing our self as something belonging to us - which is reflective; reflected by another self. it is a way to put ownership to thoughts, feelings, ideas etc.; and intertwined with this reflective view is that we have to be reflected in order to become reflected. this will initiate in childhood by mother-infant reflecting interaction, as the infant sees the mother as a mirror of its own not yet fully consciouss expression; thus it learns of its 'I' or ego and of itsself by looking a natural mirror, which points out the emotion's ownership.
// now, many years later we we say things like 'I and my body' or 'I and my brain' - or 'my brain has tricked me'; and now it appears as if the 'I' or ego is something sepparate from the self; something that is partly or completly judged, controlled, tricked, influence by the self - while at the same time we feel influenced, tricked, controlled and judged by others. how someone else values an item we like and enjoy may affect us so much, that we have to get rid of the item as it is spoiled by the other's judgement. viewed logically this does not make much sense; why should anybody influence us? plus, if I attune to such behaviour I get bullied all the time. sometimes, it is very difficult to withstand the judgement of others - we are essentially used to it as meaningful source of identity from the beginning of our life.
// however, there is a way of freeing oneself of such problems as they are named here. this is a question of the self which is the sum of an existance, physicallly and virtually. the self has a 1st person stance 'I' or the ego; and it has a 3rd person stance being reflective, reflected by other selfs or other agents, thus I say my self and your self. it is a matter of attributing values to each other, or judgements. judgment is enforced by shame and guilt, the two most essential emotions of all, alongside fear. shame and guilt are reflective emotions, they are felt before others; they are the reason our joyful experiences become ruined, while this is being enforced unto us by others.
// now, I will not say 'I/me and my brain and or myself' anymore; I will say 'I, the brain' and 'I, the self; I, the body.' I am all that I am, yet neither do I control the brain nor does the brain control I. I simply am the brain and all the processes in the brain. I am the body, every bit of it. I am the control - besides this there is no other controlling agent. it is only that by upbringing we have learnt to simulate an other self in the brain, so as this other self may trigger feelings of shame or guilt experienced by the 'I' or ego. this equals a 3rd person stance inflicting onto a 1st person stance.
ironically, it is our own mind that inflicts shame and guilt, ruining our experiences, as we feel we cannot resist other people's opinions.
// therefore, we will greatly reduce the power of the reflective 3rd person perception and by this the impact of how my self is judged before/by others. instead we hand this power to the recognition of the ego - / the 'I' - perception. this provides the self = a human with the cognition that he as ego / as I equals [him]self. his reflective self is not distinct from the ego, it is the same object. as ego the human is equal to self and the only thing that exists, controls and decides. he is the self which speaks by the name of 'I'.
// example: therefore I say 'I, the mind I am, I cannot feel the shame or guilt you inflict on I - as I for the time being have switched of the reflective perception of I.'
// this cognition de-entangles the self from others. this is highly effective since shame - the feeling which sits at the very root of all judging social interaction - is always a reflected feeling. shame, or guilt or fear, are the emotion that spoil / ruin the once joyful experiences. these emotions are only delivered to the 'I' or ego from a third person stance / the reflective stance - by the other and before the other. I feel ashamed in front of others for myself, my self beeing judged by others.
// the very moment, though, I recognize this functional-logical loophole of perception and 1st to 3rd person perspective stance, that sits within one's own mind, it takes a couple of days of practice only - not the whole day; just a few times a day - in thinking one's thinking as nonreflected I only; as shown in the example sentence above
// then, it is goodbye to shame and guilt, and goodbye to social anxienty and social phobia, and goodbye to ruined experiences of what I enjoy.
// usually, perceiving the human as self we speak as 'I' being the self and as 'of myself' viewing our self as something belonging to us - which is reflective; reflected by another self. it is a way to put ownership to thoughts, feelings, ideas etc.; and intertwined with this reflective view is that we have to be reflected in order to become reflected. this will initiate in childhood by mother-infant reflecting interaction, as the infant sees the mother as a mirror of its own not yet fully consciouss expression; thus it learns of its 'I' or ego and of itsself by looking a natural mirror, which points out the emotion's ownership.
// now, many years later we we say things like 'I and my body' or 'I and my brain' - or 'my brain has tricked me'; and now it appears as if the 'I' or ego is something sepparate from the self; something that is partly or completly judged, controlled, tricked, influence by the self - while at the same time we feel influenced, tricked, controlled and judged by others. how someone else values an item we like and enjoy may affect us so much, that we have to get rid of the item as it is spoiled by the other's judgement. viewed logically this does not make much sense; why should anybody influence us? plus, if I attune to such behaviour I get bullied all the time. sometimes, it is very difficult to withstand the judgement of others - we are essentially used to it as meaningful source of identity from the beginning of our life.
// however, there is a way of freeing oneself of such problems as they are named here. this is a question of the self which is the sum of an existance, physicallly and virtually. the self has a 1st person stance 'I' or the ego; and it has a 3rd person stance being reflective, reflected by other selfs or other agents, thus I say my self and your self. it is a matter of attributing values to each other, or judgements. judgment is enforced by shame and guilt, the two most essential emotions of all, alongside fear. shame and guilt are reflective emotions, they are felt before others; they are the reason our joyful experiences become ruined, while this is being enforced unto us by others.
// now, I will not say 'I/me and my brain and or myself' anymore; I will say 'I, the brain' and 'I, the self; I, the body.' I am all that I am, yet neither do I control the brain nor does the brain control I. I simply am the brain and all the processes in the brain. I am the body, every bit of it. I am the control - besides this there is no other controlling agent. it is only that by upbringing we have learnt to simulate an other self in the brain, so as this other self may trigger feelings of shame or guilt experienced by the 'I' or ego. this equals a 3rd person stance inflicting onto a 1st person stance.
ironically, it is our own mind that inflicts shame and guilt, ruining our experiences, as we feel we cannot resist other people's opinions.
// therefore, we will greatly reduce the power of the reflective 3rd person perception and by this the impact of how my self is judged before/by others. instead we hand this power to the recognition of the ego - / the 'I' - perception. this provides the self = a human with the cognition that he as ego / as I equals [him]self. his reflective self is not distinct from the ego, it is the same object. as ego the human is equal to self and the only thing that exists, controls and decides. he is the self which speaks by the name of 'I'.
// example: therefore I say 'I, the mind I am, I cannot feel the shame or guilt you inflict on I - as I for the time being have switched of the reflective perception of I.'
// this cognition de-entangles the self from others. this is highly effective since shame - the feeling which sits at the very root of all judging social interaction - is always a reflected feeling. shame, or guilt or fear, are the emotion that spoil / ruin the once joyful experiences. these emotions are only delivered to the 'I' or ego from a third person stance / the reflective stance - by the other and before the other. I feel ashamed in front of others for myself, my self beeing judged by others.
// the very moment, though, I recognize this functional-logical loophole of perception and 1st to 3rd person perspective stance, that sits within one's own mind, it takes a couple of days of practice only - not the whole day; just a few times a day - in thinking one's thinking as nonreflected I only; as shown in the example sentence above
// then, it is goodbye to shame and guilt, and goodbye to social anxienty and social phobia, and goodbye to ruined experiences of what I enjoy.
