I awoke early this morning thinking about what happened in Connecticut. Adam Lanza (the shooter) is reported on CNN (by his older brother Ryan (who was initially misidentified as being the shooter) to have 'a form of Autism'!
I've wondered about the potential effect that isolation, depression, rage, possibly being victims of bullying, rejection by love interests mishandling by schools/society/medical/mental healthcare systems, suicidal ideation/nihilism & easy firearms access have on some young (late teen-early 20s) Aspie men.
It cannot be ignored that our community is capable or producing some very dangerous characters. Putting our heads in the sand, pleading 'sensitivity' & refusing to discuss it isn't an option nor is denial or the silencing of others more willing to talk openly.
So many Aspie women turn their depression & anger inwards & become self-destructive. There is a lot of internalized anger turned into depression. Our young men also suffer from depression BUT western cultures (esp in the USA) instruct guys that depression & vulnerability are feminine traits & signs of weakness. They are tacitly & sometimes openly taught that they're supposed to be un-emotional, always in control & that they should be initiators of decisive actions.
Many Aspie men have severe control issues: any upsetting of an expected routine can trigger a melt-down. Life, however, is fraught with these upsets & uncertainties & due to Asperger's, underemployment & financial constraints, few young Aspie men are in control of their lives. They are quite broke & dependent on parents, a minimum wage job or financial aide of some sort. One could argue that this is true of many Aspie women as well BUT our society has a marked double standard when it comes to women & dependency.
As with other young men, Aspie guys' hormones are raging & they too seek sexual gratification with a partner. For so many straight Aspie guys just on this forum, finding this kind of relationship is proving elusive. More than 5 that I remember have expressed stereotypical & misogynistic thoughts about women. They all share one trait in common: severely limited experiences with actual women! As with other prejudices, ignorance & limited exposure nurtures prejudices.
What is the interaction that occurs between sexual desire, sexual frustration, black & white thinking, rage & control issues, suicidal ideation & emasculation? Toss in a measure of humiliation, feelings of powerlessness & social messages telling them that they're supposed to turn their frustrations outwards, add convenient access to firearms & you can see how this can end badly. The rage could be directed at women for rejecting them, seemingly successful people enjoying their lives in leisure activities like shopping or going to the movies, a work environment that either fired them or refused to hire them, the school they have bad memories from, the college they were struggling in & feeling like a misfit in...
I'm NOT spewing blanket suspicion on ALL Aspie men: just looking at the very specific traits & social conditions that have been proven to be common traits in young men who've gone on murderous rampages. What can be done to prevent such tragedies from occurring? I don't claim to have the solution or that there even IS one formula that will prevent such rampages. One thing I do know for sure: talking about it openly is essential. Denial never solved a problem of any kind.
I've wondered about the potential effect that isolation, depression, rage, possibly being victims of bullying, rejection by love interests mishandling by schools/society/medical/mental healthcare systems, suicidal ideation/nihilism & easy firearms access have on some young (late teen-early 20s) Aspie men.
It cannot be ignored that our community is capable or producing some very dangerous characters. Putting our heads in the sand, pleading 'sensitivity' & refusing to discuss it isn't an option nor is denial or the silencing of others more willing to talk openly.
So many Aspie women turn their depression & anger inwards & become self-destructive. There is a lot of internalized anger turned into depression. Our young men also suffer from depression BUT western cultures (esp in the USA) instruct guys that depression & vulnerability are feminine traits & signs of weakness. They are tacitly & sometimes openly taught that they're supposed to be un-emotional, always in control & that they should be initiators of decisive actions.
Many Aspie men have severe control issues: any upsetting of an expected routine can trigger a melt-down. Life, however, is fraught with these upsets & uncertainties & due to Asperger's, underemployment & financial constraints, few young Aspie men are in control of their lives. They are quite broke & dependent on parents, a minimum wage job or financial aide of some sort. One could argue that this is true of many Aspie women as well BUT our society has a marked double standard when it comes to women & dependency.
As with other young men, Aspie guys' hormones are raging & they too seek sexual gratification with a partner. For so many straight Aspie guys just on this forum, finding this kind of relationship is proving elusive. More than 5 that I remember have expressed stereotypical & misogynistic thoughts about women. They all share one trait in common: severely limited experiences with actual women! As with other prejudices, ignorance & limited exposure nurtures prejudices.
What is the interaction that occurs between sexual desire, sexual frustration, black & white thinking, rage & control issues, suicidal ideation & emasculation? Toss in a measure of humiliation, feelings of powerlessness & social messages telling them that they're supposed to turn their frustrations outwards, add convenient access to firearms & you can see how this can end badly. The rage could be directed at women for rejecting them, seemingly successful people enjoying their lives in leisure activities like shopping or going to the movies, a work environment that either fired them or refused to hire them, the school they have bad memories from, the college they were struggling in & feeling like a misfit in...
I'm NOT spewing blanket suspicion on ALL Aspie men: just looking at the very specific traits & social conditions that have been proven to be common traits in young men who've gone on murderous rampages. What can be done to prevent such tragedies from occurring? I don't claim to have the solution or that there even IS one formula that will prevent such rampages. One thing I do know for sure: talking about it openly is essential. Denial never solved a problem of any kind.