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    What are your sensory issues?

    I seem to have a very strong sense of smell in some regards - I can tell if you've had a beer with your lunch 3 hours ago - but there are very few smells that really bother me or that I can't adjust to and ignore. There is a certain type of mulch though that just makes me ill to smell it... My...
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    Diagnosis?

    I'm in a similar boat here - also in the USA, no insurance, can't afford it (perhaps the new healthcare reform will change that?). i am self-employed however, but can't afford to get officially tested. I have spent the past few months reading a TON about Asperger's though and I'm quite sure I...
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    When do you tell people you are an aspie?

    Re: when to tell people you are an aspie i might look around the person's face a bit to avoid the eye contact issues, but I know I don't stare at their mouth either, because I can't lipread to save my life! I tend to try to find the object we are discussing, or a related object (I'm involved...
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    Rules

    I am also extremely bothered by people flaunting rules, but only if i can see the reason the rule is in place, in other words i can see what the purpose is and it is benefits people. (for example I've been known to speed down the highway, not obeying the rules there I guess, but I keep it within...
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    When do you tell people you are an aspie?

    Re: when to tell people you are an aspie I KNOW I've caught myself sliding around looking at mouth, nose, even ears! But I do KNOW that I really don't ever make direct eye contact, so I was really startled when my easy-to-talk-to-about-it friend said she thought I did. Now that i've pointed it...
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    Should we stop trying to act normal?

    I always hated "why don't you smile?" too. How is it normal to walk around smiling for no reason? I got that one at work all the time when I was at a warehouse/shipping job. Say something truly funny and I'll smile just fine - who's the weird one again? As far as my hair, it looks normal...
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    Should we stop trying to act normal?

    As I understand it, lots of NT's stim a little bit. What makes it different is that we do it a lot more, or we *require* for some reason, stress relief, focus etc. For example, I, being a girl, can certainly play with my hair in public without attracting attention. But if people realized I do it...
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    Should we stop trying to act normal?

    Well luckily I only have minor "socially acceptable" stims now - I am a very obsessive hair toucher, and if that's impractical I can play with something in my pocket while I walk around. I can't really focus well without touching/feeling something though. I have been known to quit a...
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    When do you tell people you are an aspie?

    Re: when to tell people you are an aspie I have only recently discovered I had it and begun to tell people. A couple friends were like "well you seem OK with yourself so whatever', which is fine. One friend has some odd tendencies herself and we actually enjoy having long conversations about...
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    Should we stop trying to act normal?

    One of my goals since finding out I had Asperger's has been to stop "faking" so much. I don't like when I fake things, and I can tell that sometimes people catch me doing it and look at me funny. i'd rather them look at me funny for my true responses than for acting fake! I think there is a...
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    Can you handle change? And how? Is it even change that's the problem?

    I actually tend to enjoy a changing routine and new challenges - i like travel, for example. For a long time, this was one of the things that led me to believe i couldn't fall on the spectrum. But lately I've come to realize it's not "change" necessarily that bothers me, it's unexpected...
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    Problems with intrusions on personal space

    I definitely want more personal space than most NT's naturally seem to give. I am always stepping away, and indeed, some of them step right with me. Aggravates (and distracts) me to no end. I find it hard to continue the conversation when I'm constantly trying to evade them. That said, if I am...
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    Do you stim? If so, what are your stims?

    consultingrodent, I only tend to do this when they're in my pocket, but that's probably because I don't really ever have loose change on a table in front of me. I am sure I would do it then too. I really like to run my fingers along the head stamped on an older quarter (before they put states...
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    Do you stim? If so, what are your stims?

    I have a couple tactile stims. It was only recently as I researched Asperger's/autism that I figured out that's what I was doing. I run my fingers along a section of my hair over and over - it isn't "playing" so much as it's feeling the smoothness of it. I will also run my fingers over coins...
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    Do you do the Aspie Stare?

    So glad there are others out there with the same "fake smile" issues. The only time anyone gets a good smile is if they crack an actual funny joke and I laugh at it. Otherwise I am deadpan serious or the awful fake smile that I feel is actually worse. I got asked "don't you ever smile" so often...
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