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    Couple is arrested after autistic girl, 10, is found locked inside a wooden CAGE...

    That does tell something. Apparently the "cage" was 4ft high and had no top. Honest people call that a fence or a partition. When kids build them they call them forts. I'm not saying the girl wasn't in a terrible situation; just that I believe it would be foolish to form any conclusions...
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    Couple is arrested after autistic girl, 10, is found locked inside a wooden CAGE...

    It is possible that the newspaper report is accurate, but in my opinion this article reeks of a reporter twisting the facts to create a sensational story at the expense of a young girl. For example, what the reporter calls a "cage" the parents called a "safe room." Was it really a cage? We...
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    Beauty insecurity?

    I think it is perfectly normal to have worries over what people think of you, especially for those of us who can't read people. For girls it usually focuses on beauty, for boys it is more diverse (strength, athleticism, wittiness, etc.--and looks too). Most such fears are overblown and should...
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    Long-term NT-Aspie Relationship: Is Invalidation Normal?

    You say he is undiagnosed. From what you say I wonder if the assumption that he is aspie might be incorrect. In my experience Aspies are less likely to be manipulative and passive aggressive than are NTs. Aspies can be extremely blunt (they don't mean it to hurt), not so much manipulative...
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    Having your differences be dismissed by neurotypicals

    My experience has been the similar. Trying to share is usually not a good idea. It is good to hear everyone else's experience. The NT response makes sense from their perspective. To them everything is about power; they can't help it. It is very difficult for them to see aspie differences as...
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    Do you recognize if you're being "rude"?

    Perhaps a different way of understanding the situation... Suppose this guy just wanted to be your friend. How would he get that started? Somehow he would have to query you to find out if you were interested, but in the NT world, it is just not allowed (weird, awkward, whatever) to say...
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    Questions for Aspies

    You are right not to just blame him or be angry with him. He is probably dealing with a lot personally and feels like he can barely keep his head above water. I'm sorry to say it, but what that means for you is that you're probably losing your friendship. I know from experience how painful it...
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    Hugs? Cuddles?

    It's not the hugs themselves that are the problem for me. What I really dislike is the awkwardness of not being able to tell when a hug is or is not acceptable. I have often wanted to participate in the hello and goodbye hugging rituals among friends and among relatives, but I cannot tell...
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    your thoughts on my analogy of what its like being aspie

    "Socialize" is a general term, so you may be thinking of something other than I am. I don't think it's impossible to socialize, rather that it's impractical for me to spend too much energy on it. NT socializing is not what it seems, and I could never keep up with it's intricacies. For...
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    your thoughts on my analogy of what its like being aspie

    Well, it could be worse (and for me it is). Imagine that you are so bad at violin that you don't even realize how bad you are. You go to recitals and try your best and the best you get is sneers and polite but obviously phony "appreciation." When you finally realize that there is something...
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    Comment by 'OFelixCulpa' in 'I just got and set up my 4K monitor'

    Nice! Now you have me wanting one. I just got a new SP4 a few weeks ago, and I am using it with my old monitor (1920x1080). It is strange having a setup where the physically smaller screen is much higher resolution and so displays "more" than the big screen.
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    Unexpected Effect of Asperger's Diagnosis

    I hear you! I always thought that I was pretty good at social interaction, but now I see that I only thought so because I was so very unaware of what most people were thinking. I realize now that people who I thought of as friends were never really interested in being friends with me (and they...
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    Bad memory affecting relationship?

    Well, my first impression of the situation is that you probably didn't specifically tell Mr. H that Mr. P had stayed over. If Mr. H is like most NTs, he assumed that some things you said implied that you had never had an intimate relationship with Mr. P. Most people (by that I mean virtually...
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    What is your social kryptonite?

    There are several others, but one thing where I really noticed the difference between me and everyone else is the game Balderdash. I am completely unable to play. The goal of the game is to lie convincingly. I never understood before, but I always came in dead last--no one ever chose my...
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    Math source of anxiety

    I second the recommendation of Khan Academy. One of the great things about the website is that you know if you are getting the problems right. You should definitely give it a try.
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