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Recent content by forstem99

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    Husband shuts down very badly

    Honey, I wouldn't be able to advise you except to say: when he closes down its not you he's closing down to. He can't help it. Always bear that in mind. I'm sure he loves you and would want to be able to do more for you and your child.
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    At long last

    Routine is so important to our sense of well-being! I'm really happy for you!
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    How Will You Spend Thanksgiving Day and Why?

    48 and don't have one either. I do have a PhD though. The combination is too much for a lot of people :)
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    Secrecy vs Disclosure

    I made the mistake of 'coming out' at work. Suddenly I receive negative staff assessments ('not a team player')and it's 'would you like to go part-time'. Whatever legal rules they're obliged to follow, HR departments will do their best to get rid of anyone who might pose a 'problem'.
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    Age of Diagnosis

    Officially at 46. Last year. I recognised the symptoms in myself on reading about Aspergers about 7 years previously. To be honest its had a depressing effect. My self-confidence has deteriorated; I feel intrinsically defective and unchangeable. Perhaps if I had access to professional help...
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    Do you care that you've had no 'personal' or social life?

    I know that some aspies in this position seem not to care about these things, even find the idea of an intimate life distasteful. Whereas some, like me, regard it as a painful failure never having had a close relationship (or been able to understand them). How do you feel? What causes the...
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    What Are Your Triggers?

    For me it's loud music. I've always found it extremely intrusive to the point of having a meltdown from a sense of psychic invasion. Severe paranoia and depression. You can imagine what University was like! I recently had new neighbours move in downstairs replacing the quiet couple who had...
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    Proud Accomplishments

    That's so wonderful ExplosiveTMT. The first two are things I've not mastered so I'm encouraged by your success! I could never talk in class either. I'm glad your mum was a good friend to you. So was mine. I miss her a lot.
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    Aspergers and Expectations

    I think unreasonable self-expectations can be very damaging. My 'complete failure' socially and romantically is something that has greatly damaged my self-worth, which of course leads others to undervalue you. My own parents' attitudes to me seemed to improve when I began to take a less...
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    Where did you graduate and what was your major?

    BSc Chemistry at Bradford University (England). How I graduated is a mystery. I was so depressed and confused by the end (surrounded by several thousand other 18-22 year olds who may as well have been from Mars) I could barely function. Did a Masters in Information Management after several...
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    North East UK

    Hiya Glenn I'm from down the road in Consett originally. Small world! Welcome. I joined only recently and everyone has been very friendly.
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    Hello everyone

    Thank you everyone for your friendly welcome. I'm looking forward to contributing!
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    Hello everyone

    Thank you Vanilla I've managed to get there in a little over 3 years part-time. Way ahead of schedule - thanks to the old habit of obsessiveness! Unfortunately to the point where it has affected my physical health. I've just gone part-time in my job to try and sort out my health, get the thing...
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    Hello everyone

    Thank you Steph.
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    Hello everyone

    Thank you Harrison54. I'll try not to be too timid!
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