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Recent content by Emg1404

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    Ex wife of asd partner

    Thank you so much for your wisdom and engagement-I’m very touched . I’m in the UK so it’s wind down time I really appreciate all of your advice ☺️
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    Ex wife of asd partner

    Ooh, it smacks a bit of “Girls , don’t wear short skirts if you don’t want to attract the wrong attention” One of my central premises in this discussion was to highlight double standards and inequality in the efforts made to create harmony in a NT/ND relationship. Unfortunately my ex I’m...
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    Ex wife of asd partner

    No but I was at a level of frustration where I was acting from instinct than reason
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    Ex wife of asd partner

    I agree , I know I contributed to these in some ways and I believe I have taken responsibility for my hurtful actions -I know that I will have caused him a lot of angst too In terms of sexual performance-I do understand what I didn’t do enough of …because I viewed that there was no care for my...
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    Ex wife of asd partner

    Yes , I guess everyone has deal breakers and non negotiables But I do believe in global truths around good, bad etc So this is one reason we have laws to benchmark right/wrong behaviour to protect vulnerable people etc. By my reckoning my ex broke some civil laws. Btw -I know that he’d...
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    Ex wife of asd partner

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    Ex wife of asd partner

    So across all people if wrongs aren’t righted there’s a problem And If the wronged person chooses to stay with someone who persistently refuses to remove that hurt then there’s a possible abuse dynamic evolving Then we get into why partners stay in these situations
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    Ex wife of asd partner

    What’s your answer to my question?
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    Ex wife of asd partner

    It will differ depending on the relationship, the persons moral code , their mental health, their ability to understand the hurt and take responsibility for it and how much they care . I pretty much try to reverse a hurt I’ve caused immediately if possible
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    Ex wife of asd partner

    If an Aspie is told they are hurting someone’s feelings what is an acceptable length of time to be patient ?
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    Ex wife of asd partner

    I agree but avoidant can be just as destructive . You are still choosing to do something that I would argue benefits the chooser and if this is repeated over years The old adage -doing nothing is still doing something
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    Ex wife of asd partner

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    Ex wife of asd partner

    Thank you. I’ll illustrate the main points that I would consider abuse 1. He had erectile dysfunction -he had never had sex before he met me. We saw a sexual psychotherapist in the first year , this produced some success but life became busy . I asked him to go to see a doctor every 6 months...
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    Ex wife of asd partner

    Thank you so much
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    Ex wife of asd partner

    Thank you
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