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Recent content by Cecile

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    How to deal when you bore the heck out of your nt partner?

    Hm, I know a few NTs who can be as intense if not more than what you describe. Some of them are artists. My Aspie ex was rather self-concious about that trait and would stop himself before it could get "too much", at least in real life... Usually the subject would be his main special interest...
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    A THEORY ON ASPIEISM. (Random thoughts by Grumpy Cat)

    NTs have aspie traits just like Aspies have NT traits... But NTs don't have as many "full-blown" aspie traits. And Aspie traits go beyond personality "quirks", a love of logic and a need for aloneness. Their "sensory system" really works differently than NTs, and so does the way they "feel...
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    Is it obvious that you are aspergic

    Exactly like the guy I dated (except for the eventual diagnosis). His aspieness started to show when he got overwhelmed by several stressors from work, his family, and the "idea of a developping relationship". I can clearly recall occasions where I was the only witness and he "had his guard...
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    Is it obvious that you are aspergic

    No. I have met Aspies (diagnosed and self-diagnosed), talked with them, etc., and wouldn't have known if they had not told me. I have dated an Aspie, and I had no clue at first, I thought he was just a bit eccentric -- I have worked in the field of independent arts for years, so I am used to...
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    Have you ever had a person as a special interest?

    Creepy Indeed! Yep, the experiment can feel slightly creepy-ish at times... Or feel like the anthropologist is somewhat using the person as a toy, game, or "something to kill time when bored"... Which doesn't help anything if the experiment started out as a relationship. Maelström, I guess...
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    Have you ever had a person as a special interest?

    Take it from a Martian who's been studied by a friend/boyfriend/ex/anthropologist who didn't understand/admit what he was doing: writing it, actually makes you sound rather open and lucid.
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    Have you ever had a person as a special interest?

    You're nice, but it certainly isn't your job/ responsibility to apologize on this one.;) As for winning the day, that is out of the question. He is in denial about Asperger's, and one of his special interests is (NT) psychoanalysis, so imagine that... To him, there is no such thing as...
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    Have you ever had a person as a special interest?

    That's interesting. I think I have been "the object" of exactly this: a sort of "special interest" instead of a "love interest". I guess it makes sense that if one doesn't know (or doesn't admit to himself) that he is an aspie, he also doesn't know/admit/understand that he has "special...
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    Alexithymia

    Hm... What I reject (or disagree with) is not YOUR own experience, but statements about THEM the "social people"/ NTs -- which don't conform to who I am and many, many NTs are. I appreciate that you did share your experience in another part of your initial post:
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    Alexithymia

    I guess being an NT makes me a "social human", and as such, I have to disagree. Languages are codes. Written or spoken words, symbols, numbers, gestures are all signs used in various languages to allow data input and output between an emittor and a receptor, whether they are lovers, scientists...
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    Has falling in love made you change your Aspieness ?

    That really makes a whole lot of sense, actually.
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    Believing you can read emotions REAL LY well

    From my NT perspective: in these examples, your and Suzanne's husbands seem to expect you to process data and react like most NTs they know... it may be that they don't (fully) understand (yet) your "aspie default settings", it may be that they don't (fully) accept (yet) that these settings...
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    Believing you can read emotions REAL LY well

    Yet emotions (yours and other people's) are not going away when they are discounted. They just get delayed, built up, converted into various reactions (even physical ones) and then it will all seem even more "illogical", unpredictable and undependable. Basically, trying to run the show "without...
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    Believing you can read emotions REAL LY well

    I understand why you feel more at ease online, where you don't feel the pressure to read non-verbal. However, the complete absence of voice tone, facial expression, and "contextual data not conveyed by words" do increase the occurrence of misinterpretations and misunderstanding in written...
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    Alexithymia

    Thank you very much for your testimonial, this is very informative for me. If having your family members describe how they physically feel when sad, angry, etc. helps you "connect the dots" between your own physical sensations and the corresponding emotions, then I guess that it is possible, at...
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