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Met a fellow ASD-1 over the weekend.

Jumpinbare

Jumpinbare

Aspie Naturist and Absent-minded Professor dude
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Was visiting friends in Tennessee this weekend and because I knew there was going to be a small crowd there, I wore one of my "please don't touch me. I'm autistic" shirts so I wouldn't have to keep explaining that I don't shake hands. Anyway, I heard the wife of my friend couple tell her husband "we should get one of those for Josh", then she asked me where I got mine. I asked her if Josh didn't like being touched, and at first she answered "he's autistic". Then I guess she realized what I had asked and she said "Josh doesn't like being touched unless he initiates it." Josh is 4 or 5 years old and he has a twin sister who is not autistic. I don't know if the mom or dad told Josh about me or not, but several times over the weekend I noticed Josh staring at me. He didn't say anything to me, but I only saw him speak with his parents and sister - no one else that was there.
 
Interesting or maybe he's just observing. Staring into other ppls eyes freaked me out because if they'd stare back I couldn't stop lol I just got scared of myself and the other person and none would stop staring maybe due to anxiety 😂
 
He didn't seem disturbed when I caught him staring. He just kept looking, so after brief eye contact to acknowledge him, I looked elsewhere. I guess he doesn't realize yet that it's considered rude to stare at someone.
 
Or your appearance was so compelling it overran parental programming.

Think about it. You’re a kid. You have autism and no one else is like you. Suddenly, there is a big human being, an adult, who is like you. You can aspire to grow up. You’ve now seen a goal post. Something to strive for.

I bet in 20 years, he will be posting on whatever forum equivalent exists then his memory of when he first realized he can grow up and be a successful adult.
 
Looked at your post several days ago but only posting now. I am level 2 in a lot of areas mixed with level 1. Probably gone up to level 3 as in some.
However, when I did my test in ADOS this question wasn't listed about hand shaking. Small crowds I can understand. But handshaking does it have anything to do with Autism if so how. I don't mind it at church the handshaking in a small group it makes me feel safe with my kin and I also prefer smaller crowds but feel ashamed to admit to that about church as the purpose is to fill in the church.
Autism is about social interaction
Stereotyped behaviours
Imagination and creativity

Perhaps hand shaking is an anxiety or OCD condition fear of contamination.
Wearing t shirts is not Autism as well. Seems more tribal to me or just normal.
 
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Rachie said:
Looked at your post several days ago but only posting now. I am level 2 in a lot of areas mixed with level 1. Probably gone up to level 3 as in some.
However, when I did my test in ADOS this question wasn't listed about hand shaking. Small crowds I can understand. But handshaking does it have anything to do with Autism if so how. I don't mind it at church the handshaking in a small group it makes me feel safe with my kin and I also prefer smaller crowds but feel ashamed to admit to that about church as the purpose is to fill in the church.
Autism is about social interaction
Stereotyped behaviours
Imagination and creativity

Perhaps hand shaking is an anxiety or OCD condition fear of contamination.
Wearing t shirts is not Autism as well. Seems more tribal to me or just normal.
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Many of us do not like being touched, or touching other people (obviously not all autistic people are this way, but many are). Not because of contamination but because of the way it feels.

People who meet someone new often like to shake hands. I knew there would be several people there that I did not know and who did not know me, so I thought they would want to shake hands. It is awkward explaining to people that I don't want to shake hands when they are holding out their hand to shake. It seemed to me if I had on the shirt asking "please don't touch me, I'm autistic" would let the strangers know that I don't want to shake hands so that I would not have to keep explaining.

As I learned, the son of my friends, Josh, also does not like being touched, so my friends asked where I got my shirt (Amazon).
 
Jumpinbare said:
Many of us do not like being touched, or touching other people (obviously not all autistic people are this way, but many are). Not because of contamination but because of the way it feels.
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Thank you for for explaining how it can be connected to Autism as well.
 
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