I hate small talk too. Please forgive me for what I'm about to say..................
I hate when my NT boyfriend comes home from work and engages in small talk about his day on the job. He's an electrician and loves to brag about his abilities in the electrical field. I don't care to know about what Larry said or did or how Jim conducts his business.
What you describe does not really seem to be 'small talk' per se.
In your opinion what he saying is of no importance.
For him, it is what he has been experiencing
in his work day. He may find it amusing or
frustrating or have any variety of reactions.
Small talk.....is social lubricant. It shows the intention to be
amicable, to get along. Not unlike dog butt sniffing/checking
out their message boards.
Example:
William: Morning, Paul.
Paul: Oh, morning, William, how are you?
William: Fine, thanks. Have a good weekend?
Paul: Yes, thanks. Catch you later.
William: OK, see you.
The content of what your boyfriend says is probably not a recap of
conversations such as the one above.
Are you, in fact, saying that you think he is talking about his work
day in an effort to display an intent to get along with you? That he
uses the report from work in order to show he is harmless?
You might want to study what the theme of his daily job report is.
Even Little Golden Books that are only the alphabet or counting
have an underlying meaning. We did that for school, now & then---
outlined the basic meaning of simple books.
An alphabet book, for instance, shows that there is order to
language. A book that says things like "4 butterflies" indicates
there is way to quantify things in the world, that a person isn't
helpless to know what is going on.
Or maybe you are bored with your boyfriend and don't care what
goes on in his life or how he thinks/feels about it. In which case,
disregard the above.