Stephanie S.
Well-Known Member
Hello everybody. It's been a while. A small update about things have been. My daughter has turned 17 and is graduating high school this year as a senior. One of the smartest kids in her year! Very smart girl. In case you don't remember us, my daughter has asperger's.
But there really is an issue with some sound sensitivity. She really does not like dogs. Specifically for a certain sound. When "a big dog laps at water". She is the kindest, most genuine, loving girl, with such a kind heart for everything and love animals, especially her birds and horses. Even though she doesn't like dogs she would never hurt one.
But I have a very very large black lab dog. She cannot stand when that dog drinks. She goes into a huge fit. She plugs her ears and hums to drown it out and then takes the indoor water bowl and chucks it out the door. She HATES that bowl and gets very angry at it, which is absolutely anti her.
I am divorced and she stays at dad's house during the week and comes to me during the weekend. Her dad doesn't have a dog. Only I do. For the 2 days she is here she first thing she does it when she gets home she runs and pick up the indoor water. When I have the back door open and the dog goes out to the outdoor water she stops whatever she is doing and her eyes never leave that dog. She gets really paranoid when she sees it making a move.
I feel like I am stressing her when she is downstairs. That is her only sound issue. I think it's because she doesn't like dogs to begin with, so that sound really really bothers her. Upstairs the dog doesn't have water, so she feels more secure up there.
To be truthful in the beginning I used to get mad, but now I am much better with it. If it is very hot and the dog definitely needs water I will tell her to plug her ears and give her time to go away before I put the bowl down, she will yell when she is far enough away.
It kind of works, but it is so laborious every time she stays for the weekend. I feel awful, but I don't understand why she does that. When she tries to explain she says things like it is her "nails on a chalkboard".
Is this extreme sound hatred something I can work with? She literally clenches her teeth and balls her hands into a fist, even if it's muffled and she can still hear it. If it is far away and she can see it but not hear it, she is completely okay.
But there really is an issue with some sound sensitivity. She really does not like dogs. Specifically for a certain sound. When "a big dog laps at water". She is the kindest, most genuine, loving girl, with such a kind heart for everything and love animals, especially her birds and horses. Even though she doesn't like dogs she would never hurt one.
But I have a very very large black lab dog. She cannot stand when that dog drinks. She goes into a huge fit. She plugs her ears and hums to drown it out and then takes the indoor water bowl and chucks it out the door. She HATES that bowl and gets very angry at it, which is absolutely anti her.
I am divorced and she stays at dad's house during the week and comes to me during the weekend. Her dad doesn't have a dog. Only I do. For the 2 days she is here she first thing she does it when she gets home she runs and pick up the indoor water. When I have the back door open and the dog goes out to the outdoor water she stops whatever she is doing and her eyes never leave that dog. She gets really paranoid when she sees it making a move.
I feel like I am stressing her when she is downstairs. That is her only sound issue. I think it's because she doesn't like dogs to begin with, so that sound really really bothers her. Upstairs the dog doesn't have water, so she feels more secure up there.
To be truthful in the beginning I used to get mad, but now I am much better with it. If it is very hot and the dog definitely needs water I will tell her to plug her ears and give her time to go away before I put the bowl down, she will yell when she is far enough away.
It kind of works, but it is so laborious every time she stays for the weekend. I feel awful, but I don't understand why she does that. When she tries to explain she says things like it is her "nails on a chalkboard".
Is this extreme sound hatred something I can work with? She literally clenches her teeth and balls her hands into a fist, even if it's muffled and she can still hear it. If it is far away and she can see it but not hear it, she is completely okay.