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I think when people say 'I don't judge', they generally mean 'I don't condemn' or 'I don't look down on people'.
Sometimes people say 'I'm not one to judge' which can also mean either 'I'm guilty too' or 'I'm unqualified.'
Do you have more context?
Who here doesn't judge? What use is information to you if you don't?
Alternatively, what exactly do you mean by a phrase like "I don't judge"?
This will be a venting mode for me. I was placed in foster care system twice. I'm very confused making sense what a family really is? Many of you know I have expressed many things about my life.Well, I was participating in a discussion about a woman who regrets adopting her autistic daughter. It is worth noting that the adopted "child" is presently over thirty, so this isn't something the mother just blurted out in exasperation. One of the other participants said that she wasn't judging, and I just thought, "what are you doing in this conversation, then?", but got to thinking about the phrase instead of the case, since think it's pretty clear-cut that the woman in question (the mother, not the participant) is a lousy sort of person.
I should mention that this is a news story, not someone I know personally.
You mean the adoptive mother regrets adopting, not the biological mother regrets adopting out?
Some of you know from my post I have to overcome many stuff over the years on my own. Parents need to consider their actions if they have a child or decides to adopt. If you can't bare the responsibility, if your a person will give up on a child because she or he is not normal, then you are adding pain in their lives which I'm facing right now.
Well, I was participating in a discussion about a woman who regrets adopting her autistic daughter. It is worth noting that the adopted "child" is presently over thirty, so this isn't something the mother just blurted out in exasperation. One of the other participants said that she wasn't judging, and I just thought, "what are you doing in this conversation, then?", but got to thinking about the phrase instead of the case, since think it's pretty clear-cut that the woman in question (the mother, not the participant) is a lousy sort of person.
I should mention that this is a news story, not someone I know personally.
Yes, the adoptive mother regrets adopting. No word on the biological parents, except that they may have been abusive (the article is full of euphemisms). Anyway, although I can understand not wanting a child to begin with, and I can even, if I stretch, understand wanting to give back a child you got because you wanted it before you've developed any kind of bond with it; even with all of that, I cannot for the life of me comprehend harassing your adult daughter for having been disabled.
Congratulations on making it through all of that. It's safe to say that you have a lot of strength.
I agree: people should really get more realistic about what it means to have a child and parent it before getting one. Otherwise they will get all angry when the child fails to live up to their expectations. It's better for everyone if they are reasonable.
I think when people say 'I don't judge', they generally mean 'I don't condemn' or 'I don't look down on people'.
Sometimes people say 'I'm not one to judge' which can also mean either 'I'm guilty too' or 'I'm unqualified.'
Do you have more context?
In my opinion, "I'm not judging" is just something that people say because they think it sounds good. I think in many cases when they say it, they say it in regards to things that they know lend themselves to judgement, they say it in regards to things that they know are blameworthy. I think that phrase, if anything, often indicates that the person actually has passed a negative judgment on the thing that they purportedly are not judging.