So everytime I post I always feel I have to preface it by saying I don't have Aspergers but probably do have Nonverbal Learning Disability which most likely has some connection, as well as Anxiety and some mild depression.
Hopefully I'll stop feeling I have to remind everyone of this, as I'm not sure why I feel the need to haha.
Anyways, one thing that I seem to have in common with many Aspies is difficulty with a lot of change.
On the one hand, I really can't stand that so many of my days seem to be the same, and I desperately crave change, and yet, I feel somehow incapable of creating the change I need for myself in life.
I don't want to go off about all of the things I want to change, there's many and some are very personal, but they are very important things that will require real effort to achieve, and somehow I just don't feel I have the energy and/or determination and/or conscious knowledge of how to do them.
I go back and forth between theories as to exactly WHY I can't change.
They will range from everything from my Learning Disability and/or anxiety and/or depression and my brain just having less plasticity, to knowing I have been spoiled my whole life and really given more than I deserve by my family and thinking that maybe it has all just lulled me into being a person who has never learned the lessons of hard work to overcome adversity (despite having overcome some adversity in my life so far) to thinking that I might just be plain lazy and there might be NOTHING wrong with me at all, that I just need to get up off my ass (pardon my french, is cursing allowed in moderation here?) and go FORCE myself to do things, and that's all it is.
I hate traveling to a lot places I've never been, trying a lot of new activities I'm not familiar with (which is basically most the activities that exist in the world LOL), and I while I used to have a lot of friends, I lost touch with most of them after college, so I have no one to go try new things with who would encourage me.
I end up sticking to the things I know about, like the few interests I have like martial arts and metal music, and just my simple part time job, exercising and watching TV or going online.
There's so much I want to change in life that I don't know where to begin and I really feel paralyzed.
I am going to start getting Neurofeedback sessions in a week in the hope that it can somehow change my brain chemistry and help me regain a sense of hope that there's some possible way I can achieve change in my life and then go out and make the changes I need myself, but while this practice DOES have some proven success with learning disabilities, anxiety and depression, I am not sure it can actually supply me with the will power or sheer "heart" "grit" and "determination" that I need to actually not only go out and do what I need to do to achieve a happy life, but figure out what I even need to do in the first place.
Does this kind of thinking come from my brain chemistry, or the fact that perhaps my family has "enabled" me and given me so many choices I don't know what to do with them all?
That seems to be a problem these days: too many choices, too many options, and I read an article online that calls my generation "the generation of desperation" for this very reason.
I know I can be very lazy, but I just can't seem to figure out why I am so very indecisive and why it is so very hard for me to make big changes in my life.
Instead, I just go round and round in circles, with every move I make being "one step forward and two steps back" endlessly.
I know this may be a big topic and a long post, and I'm not going into detail with what I want to change, but this kind of negative circular thinking drives me crazy.
Maybe some of you can share your own opinions on whether or not this kind of thinking originates in my brain, comes from my circumstances of being given too much or spoiled, or if I'm just plain lazy.
I'd rather it be the former than the latter two frankly...
Hopefully I'll stop feeling I have to remind everyone of this, as I'm not sure why I feel the need to haha.
Anyways, one thing that I seem to have in common with many Aspies is difficulty with a lot of change.
On the one hand, I really can't stand that so many of my days seem to be the same, and I desperately crave change, and yet, I feel somehow incapable of creating the change I need for myself in life.
I don't want to go off about all of the things I want to change, there's many and some are very personal, but they are very important things that will require real effort to achieve, and somehow I just don't feel I have the energy and/or determination and/or conscious knowledge of how to do them.
I go back and forth between theories as to exactly WHY I can't change.
They will range from everything from my Learning Disability and/or anxiety and/or depression and my brain just having less plasticity, to knowing I have been spoiled my whole life and really given more than I deserve by my family and thinking that maybe it has all just lulled me into being a person who has never learned the lessons of hard work to overcome adversity (despite having overcome some adversity in my life so far) to thinking that I might just be plain lazy and there might be NOTHING wrong with me at all, that I just need to get up off my ass (pardon my french, is cursing allowed in moderation here?) and go FORCE myself to do things, and that's all it is.
I hate traveling to a lot places I've never been, trying a lot of new activities I'm not familiar with (which is basically most the activities that exist in the world LOL), and I while I used to have a lot of friends, I lost touch with most of them after college, so I have no one to go try new things with who would encourage me.
I end up sticking to the things I know about, like the few interests I have like martial arts and metal music, and just my simple part time job, exercising and watching TV or going online.
There's so much I want to change in life that I don't know where to begin and I really feel paralyzed.
I am going to start getting Neurofeedback sessions in a week in the hope that it can somehow change my brain chemistry and help me regain a sense of hope that there's some possible way I can achieve change in my life and then go out and make the changes I need myself, but while this practice DOES have some proven success with learning disabilities, anxiety and depression, I am not sure it can actually supply me with the will power or sheer "heart" "grit" and "determination" that I need to actually not only go out and do what I need to do to achieve a happy life, but figure out what I even need to do in the first place.
Does this kind of thinking come from my brain chemistry, or the fact that perhaps my family has "enabled" me and given me so many choices I don't know what to do with them all?
That seems to be a problem these days: too many choices, too many options, and I read an article online that calls my generation "the generation of desperation" for this very reason.
I know I can be very lazy, but I just can't seem to figure out why I am so very indecisive and why it is so very hard for me to make big changes in my life.
Instead, I just go round and round in circles, with every move I make being "one step forward and two steps back" endlessly.
I know this may be a big topic and a long post, and I'm not going into detail with what I want to change, but this kind of negative circular thinking drives me crazy.
Maybe some of you can share your own opinions on whether or not this kind of thinking originates in my brain, comes from my circumstances of being given too much or spoiled, or if I'm just plain lazy.
I'd rather it be the former than the latter two frankly...