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Immaturity

Stevie1903

Stevie1903

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I'm a 42 year old married man. Most of the time I'm quiet and prefer my own company. I don't mix with others all that well. At work I'm ok with colleagues once I get to know them. The one thing I do notice is my moods tend to go from quiet to opinionated to rather immature! When I get going I'm terrible for puns and having a bit of a laugh. I'm not naturally confident but do find I swing between these various states.

My question is do others find they can be childish in behaviour? My boss and workmates are aware of my AS and I often feel this kind of calls into question my condition. I don't know if I am making much sense here to be honest.
 
When is something immature and who decides it is so?

I'm much like what you describe at times. Granted, I know I'm not the most responsible adult (I mean, I clearly don't have my sh*t together in a traditional sense).

I don't know if immaturity, which in a way makes one a bit more extrovert is a big issue or an indication that one cannot be on the spectrum. Immaturity can often be linked to humor and humor in general is a way to cope with all kinds of things. It's why serious issues sometimes can be addressed more easily through a joke as an icebreaker.

Perhaps you're just more confident when you can joke around and a more serious environment kinda holds you back?
 
Stevie1903 said:
I'm a 42 year old married man. Most of the time I'm quiet and prefer my own company. I don't mix with others all that well. At work I'm ok with colleagues once I get to know them. The one thing I do notice is my moods tend to go from quiet to opinionated to rather immature! When I get going I'm terrible for puns and having a bit of a laugh. I'm not naturally confident but do find I swing between these various states.

My question is do others find they can be childish in behaviour? My boss and workmates are aware of my AS and I often feel this kind of calls into question my condition. I don't know if I am making much sense here to be honest.
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I am childish at times; actually on a regular basis. There's an example of this on my profile today.
 
I've been told I'm childish but outside of arguments when they're just being a dick it tends to be because of my sense of humor and when I feel playful.
 
I have a rather silly sense of humour, and I laugh a lot at toilet humour, and that can make me seem childish (or childlike) at times.
 
I always feel more immature than those around me. Others can seem more serious/professional etc.... but I don't change for the situation. I am always me.. Which some people like as I appear down to earth or jokey etc in, for example, work places full of seriousness......... I will be honest and sometimes that has helped make others mirror than when otherwise they wouldn't. Sometimes more serious types find it almost shocking.. but it never bothers me. I am immature at home too and mostly enjoy time with my kids!
 
Skye81 said:
I always feel more immature than those around me. Others can seem more serious/professional etc.... but I don't change for the situation. I am always me.. Which some people like as I appear down to earth or jokey etc in, for example, work places full of seriousness......... I will be honest and sometimes that has helped make others mirror than when otherwise they wouldn't. Sometimes more serious types find it almost shocking.. but it never bothers me. I am immature at home too and mostly enjoy time with my kids!
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I'm the biggest kid at home, both in humour and apparently in my approach to things.
 
It's really interesting all the different things that people consider immature. Honestly, I don't think that being boisterous or goofy is immature. I guess it would depend on the situation. I think I'm immature, but not (usually) for my sense of humor. I often feel like people think of me as childish because I'm not a parent, I don't work, and I have no real responsibilities. I don't have a mortgage to whine about or a promotion to work for or a kid to take to soccer practice. I'm not married and I don't date or anything like that. I can't really contribute to most conversations people seem to have at my age.
 
I'm about at a maturity level of an 8 year old according to my wife. But I earn $1,000 a day as an IT Project Manager. I guess it depends on the hour of the day and how I'm feeling.
 
I've always felt immature around other people and as I've grown older the feeling has intensified. I think my emotional development stopped around age 10 and consequently many of my interest fit into that sort of age group.
 
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