Datura
Well-Known Member
For about half a year now I have been obsessed with the notion that I might be on the autism specrum. Despite realizing quite quickly that my suspicions were likely eronious I can't seem to let go of the notion that I am an aspie.
I certainly have some aspie traits, but there are also traits which I lack. When I take tests some of them come up AS and others NT. Still, there are other cases where I could easily answer questions either way. I mean, do I have difficulty reading people's intentions? Are my gait, manerisms and vocal cadence "unusual?" I really don't know.
I have made the case elsewhere for why I think I may be AS (stimming, executive functioning difficulties, a history of steriotyped behaviors) but for every trait I can name I can probably think of a couterindication.
Perhaps I shouldn't let this bother me, but it does. On one hand, I am having some very real issues and desperately want to put a name to them and find solutions. On the other hand, I feel foolish for continuing to persue this avenue. I wish I could abandon the notion that I have AS and move on, but the question lingers.
I suppose I have also become rather attached to this community. I feel I am among kindred spirits. But I also feel like I may be using up space that does not beling to me, that I am diluting this community and adding confusion as to what AS is.
I know the saying; "If you have met one aspie, you've met one aspie.", but how far can one stretch the deffinition before it loses all meaning? At what point do we say, "Sorry, guess again"?
I certainly have some aspie traits, but there are also traits which I lack. When I take tests some of them come up AS and others NT. Still, there are other cases where I could easily answer questions either way. I mean, do I have difficulty reading people's intentions? Are my gait, manerisms and vocal cadence "unusual?" I really don't know.
I have made the case elsewhere for why I think I may be AS (stimming, executive functioning difficulties, a history of steriotyped behaviors) but for every trait I can name I can probably think of a couterindication.
- Up until recently I had never experienced the characteristic sensory issues associated with AS, and that eppisode was triggered by medication.
- Though I was considered a loner through most of my school life I was never truly without friends. Even when I was a pariha at school I still had good friends who I would hang out with in my free time. Socializing can be exhausting for me, but spending too much time alone is maddening.
- People largely consider me a kind and empathic person, demonstrating I possess inate social skills with which aspies typically struggle. I am sometimes accuse of being rude (especially in the workplace) without understanding why, but general consensus has always been that I am a "nice" person.
- I was a bit of a "little professor" as a kid, but I don't think my special interests ever reached the intensity associated with AS. My interests have also been more genralized than I belive a diagnosis would imply .
- I have never struggled with metaphores. In fact, I love figurative language. Even if I don't innitially understand a saying the process of parsing it's meaning is fun for me.
- Sometimes my memory is uncanny, but is generally unreliable. Aspies are supposed to accel in recalling numbers and trivia pertaining to special interests. I am horrible for remembering numbers, and despite spending countless hours researching the history of anime, for example, the names of well known directors still elude me.
- When I raise the issue of asperger's with friends, family, and medical professionals they all react incredulously.
Perhaps I shouldn't let this bother me, but it does. On one hand, I am having some very real issues and desperately want to put a name to them and find solutions. On the other hand, I feel foolish for continuing to persue this avenue. I wish I could abandon the notion that I have AS and move on, but the question lingers.
I suppose I have also become rather attached to this community. I feel I am among kindred spirits. But I also feel like I may be using up space that does not beling to me, that I am diluting this community and adding confusion as to what AS is.
I know the saying; "If you have met one aspie, you've met one aspie.", but how far can one stretch the deffinition before it loses all meaning? At what point do we say, "Sorry, guess again"?